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Being Independent Is A Must When You Are A Military Spouse

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Being independent is a must when you are a Military spouse. In some ways, I am very naturally independent. My parents tell me I have always been this way, even as a small child. If I want to do something, I try to make it happen. On the other hand, I am not so naturally independent. I don’t like dealing with cars. I like double checking things with my husband. Doing it all freaks me out.

I don’t like being the only adult in the house. I don’t like making all the decisions. I like having someone else to depend on a little bit.

Back in 2005 when I learned that I would have to drive our car 4 hours to drop it off to be shipped to Germany, I freaked out a little. That was hard for me. I hate driving and I have never been comfortable with driving long distances. However, I had to do it. Luckily my mom was able to come with me but I still had to make me self do it.

I look back over the last 8.5 years and I am amazed at some of the stuff I have done. I became more independent because I had to be. I was the only adult in the house for months at a time. If I wasn’t going to do it, who was?

I also figured out that sometimes things just work out in ways you didn’t think they could. When you truly need the help you think only your husband can provide, a friend or other family member steps in. Sometimes a total stranger steps in. The situation you worried about works itself out and it was never as bad as you were worried it might be.

It can be hard to step out of your comfort zone. It can be hard to do things you never had to do before. But that is what Military life will do to you. It will stretch you in ways you never thought possible. You will find yourself doing something you never would be able to do. You will surprise yourself in so many different ways.

How have you been stretched? What have you done that you didn’t think you would do? Has Military life made you more independent?

How Much Should You Be Tipping Your Bagger?

How much should someone be tipping their bagger when they go to the Commissary?

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My Post Stay At Home Mom Career

10616187_10154475194665705_8856139318839240024_nI graduated college right before I turned 23. I started working in a job having nothing to do with my major soon after. I got married later that year and then had my first baby in 2004. I quit my job a little bit before he was born as I had always dreamed of being a stay at home mom. It wasn’t so much that I didn’t want a career; it is that I wanted to do that before I did anything else.

I am now 35 and am not longer a stay at home mom. I work from home so I get to see a lot of my children but I am not longer their main caretaker. It is now time for me to start working on my career, whatever that is going to be.

I feel like I do have a lot of choices to make. I have different directions I can go. I am just not sure how it is all going to work out.

I have friends that started a career right after college and waited to have kids. They might be a stay at home mom now but they haven’t always been that way. Some are taking a few years off, others are home for longer.

I started to wonder if I did it wrong. Should I have started my career first? Should I have worked towards something I could have done part-time all these years? Should I have even stayed home as long as I did?

It is hard to answer those questions.

I do feel very lucky that I had almost 10 years as a stay at home mom. I got to do so much with them. Even when my huband was gone and I was playing the part of mom and dad, I was thankful I could be home with them.

However, I do feel a little behind on my career. I am not a teacher or a nurse or someone who has years of career experience behind them. But maybe that doesn’t matter. Careers can happen at different times during our lives. Some careers come from a love or desire to do something different. Other comes from a dream or an experience someone had. As for me? I am a blogger, Scentsy consultant who loves photography. There are ways to make money doing all of those things. So does it matter that I don’t have a traditional career? That I am not really using my major like I could have? Maybe it doesn’t. Maybe this is my path based on my desires of motherhood mixed with a husband who was in the Army. Maybe my career is going to be customized to me and what works for our family. And I think I am okay with that.

What about you? Are you a stay at home mom wondering what to do later on? Are you a working mom who is glad you made that choice?

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