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Oktoberfest In Clarksville, Tennessee

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A few weeks ago we decided to go to Oktoberfest in Clarksville, TN. We had gone back in 2010 and it just hadn’t worked out for us to go again until now. It was a little more than I wanted to spend but we had fun.

They had some animals out front so we stopped to check them out. Then we went into the tent to get some food. We could have bought a big German meal but we were just planning on snacks. Ben got his beer and the boys and I got some cupcakes and brownies. Then Ben and I and the boys shared a big pretzel. They had it all set up just like it would look at a German fest. We had been to a few of them during our time in Germany.

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After snacks we decided to go check out the music and dancing. We got to watch a group dance a few different ways and it was nice to sit and listen to the music.

 

After that we decided to use up our remaining tickets on some more cupcakes. We went over to the children’s area where they had bounce houses and decided against it because it would have been $15 for our three to go in there. That just wasn’t in our budget.

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We went back into the music tent to listen for a bit, walked by the animals again and went back home.

I think next year it might be nice to get a babysitter and have Ben and I go at night to enjoy everything.

 

Have you ever been to Oktoberfest either in the US or in Germany?

Parenting Without Feeling Guilty

It is hard to be a parent without feeling guilty at some point. It starts when you are pregnant and never really goes away. For some reason we all want to be the perfect parent. We don’t want to make any mistakes. We want to do it all right and we don’t want to be judged.

No matter what choices you make, there is always someone out there that would say you are making the wrong one. You really can’t win. For every parenting choice you make, there are a ton of articles out there that say you are wrong and just as many saying you are right.

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I think we should ignore it!

If I could do anything over again it would be to do what I feel is right and NOT feel any guilt for it. This is hard though. We moms want to know that we are making the right choices and sometimes it is hard to know what that is.

I always wanted to breastfeed. I worked so hard to do to it with my oldest and we made it to 17 months. So when I was faced with a decision to give my 2nd little boy formula at 9 months because he wasn’t growing like he should, I did what I thought was best. Maybe I was wrong, maybe I wasn’t. I don’t know. I know that once he started getting the formula he started gaining weight.

Did I feel guilty about that? Yes. Should I have? Probably not. Although I still think breastfeeding is the best way to go, sometimes formula is needed and sometimes it is just the way it needs to be. Does that kick me out of the pro-breastfeeding club? Maybe, but I have learned that it really doesn’t matter.

Guilt comes at all different times on our parenting journey. Sometime it is warranted yes, most of the time it isn’t.

How should a mom decide what is right and what is wrong? How are we supposed to know what to do? It is easy to have parenting ideals but what if they don’t add up to reality? What if life gets in the way? How do we know what we should hold onto and what we can let go?

When it comes to my kids these days, I try to do what is best. I try to do what is right. I read advice about what different people have done and go from there. And depending on the situation, sometimes I am okay with being wrong. Of learning a lesson through it. Because sometimes, it is really hard to know what is best for your child on a particular issue. And no one else can really tell you either.

So when guilt comes up, look at why you feel that way. Are you doing the best you can? If so, there is no reason to feel so guilty about things. I don’t think our goal should be to become a perfect parent.

I think our goal should be to be a good parent to the children we each have. And that is nothing we should feel guilty about.

Do you struggle with feeling guilty as a parent? How do you deal with that?

Saving for Retirement: When Should You Start?

Television ads assure us that we are never too old to begin saving for retirement. That makes sense; even a little financial padding is better than none. Pundits, however, are now saying the best time to start retirement strategies is when we are between 35 and 50 years old.

The reason is simple: People in that age range have usually paid back student loans and are established in their careers. They are probably making respectable incomes and have more disposable money. They own more assets than they did when they were younger. At the same time, though, they are still young enough to take advantage of compounding benefits.

Of course, people in this age group may have accumulated debt as well. They are dealing with issues like how to finance their children’s education and possibly help elderly parents. In addition, employment retirement plans are moving from benefit-based to employee contribution-based. Social Security is certainly not secure, and it becomes obvious that people are going to have to be responsible for much of their retirement income. If these years are indeed the best years to begin investing for retirement, there are many questions that must be answered. Is it a better choice to help our children pay for their educations or to use the money to fund our own retirements? Should we invest in long-term care insurance for our parents if they cannot afford it?

Another question concerns restructuring debt. Does it make sense to restructure in order to be able to invest? The answer depends upon individual circumstances; restructuring could result in paying more interest. Should you borrow to get the funds to invest? How much money should you be contributing to superannuation as opposed to a separate investment portfolio?

Most people are not financially savvy enough to answer these questions for themselves. Sometimes, considering the financial future, people panic and begin setting aside clumps of money they need in their daily lives. There has to be a balance; individuals should have a plan to systematically put away what they can afford. If you have questions or concerns about your investments or retirement planning, visit your local Nationwide insurance agent. Together, you can map out a plan to make working beyond retirement optional, not mandatory.

 

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Friday Funday

10606256_10154661126145705_7525215711271235747_nHappy Friday!!!

How are things going?

This last week has been fall break at our house. I can’t believe it is over. Back to school for the boys on Monday!

Yesterday we took them all to the dentist. It was a new dentist since I really wanted to start going somewhere in-network. It went really well,  although my oldest needs to go back for some fillings. My middle son needs to work on losing a tooth and my 3.5 year old needs to stop sucking his thumb. We got lucky with our 7-year-old since he stopped the minute he saw his little baby brother do it. He didn’t want to be like a baby.

I got back from Colorado on Tuesday. I had such a great time! I had a blast hanging out with my brother and sister-in-law for a few days as well as my parents and my aunt and uncle. I wish we all lived closer to each other. It was great to see my cousin get married to the love of her life. I still remember when she was born. I was eight and remember it well as I only have one first cousin. And now she is a married women.

We spent three nights in Denver and two in Boulder. I also got to see a friend I met here at Ft. Campbell that is now at Ft. Carson. It was so nice to catch up with her. We explored Pearl street a little bit and found a used bookstore as well as a pretty cool pharmacy. Pearl street reminded me a bit of Santa Rosa. Colorado is really really amazing! Beautiful state!

I updated a few things on the blog yesterday. I went through the Blogs I Love page and deleted any sites that are dead or don’t seem to be blogging anymore. I am still working to add people to it too. I also added a Duty Station Guest Post page to have a list of duty stations that have been written about and to invite anyone who would like to write one to let me know.

I also am going to be posting a little bit differently than I have been. Not a huge change but I will be posting more about blogging, being a WAHM and my photography. I will also post more about being a mom and special needs. I will still be posting about Military life but as my life isn’t as centered around it as it used to be I wanted to start including some other topics. With the holidays coming up I might even start blogging more about baking :)

I also have a winner for my Coming Home Book giveaway!

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Halloween is just a few weeks away and I am pretty excited about it. Every year I say I am going to dress up too and never do so we will see. We plan to go to a few different trick or treating type events.

I really want to see Gone Girl. I am hoping that can happen sometime soon. We have also been watching Supernatual! It took me forever to get through season one but now we are in season three and I am totally hooked. I am glad there are so many seasons.

I have been reading Written in My Own Heart’s Blood and don’t want to put it down! It is getting to that point where I think I might have to stay up until 2am to finish it. I love when I feel that way about a book.

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Other than a cub scout event and a birthday party I think we are going to have a pretty low-key weekend which I think I need.

What are your plans?

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