Being independent is a must when you are a Military spouse. In some ways, I am very naturally independent. My parents tell me I have always been this way, even as a small child. If I want to do something, I try to make it happen. On the other hand, I am not so naturally independent. I don’t like dealing with cars. I like double checking things with my husband. Doing it all freaks me out.
I don’t like being the only adult in the house. I don’t like making all the decisions. I like having someone else to depend on a little bit.
Back in 2005 when I learned that I would have to drive our car 4 hours to drop it off to be shipped to Germany, I freaked out a little. That was hard for me. I hate driving and I have never been comfortable with driving long distances. However, I had to do it. Luckily my mom was able to come with me but I still had to make me self do it.
I look back over the last 8.5 years and I am amazed at some of the stuff I have done. I became more independent because I had to be. I was the only adult in the house for months at a time. If I wasn’t going to do it, who was?
I also figured out that sometimes things just work out in ways you didn’t think they could. When you truly need the help you think only your husband can provide, a friend or other family member steps in. Sometimes a total stranger steps in. The situation you worried about works itself out and it was never as bad as you were worried it might be.
It can be hard to step out of your comfort zone. It can be hard to do things you never had to do before. But that is what Military life will do to you. It will stretch you in ways you never thought possible. You will find yourself doing something you never would be able to do. You will surprise yourself in so many different ways.