Not sure what the future holds when your husband is in the Army


Don’t you hate what your future holds? With the Army or Military in general, this will happen and happen often. You never really know when things will happen until they happen because of all the changes that go on within the Military.

You might hear that you will PCS to Washington in June, then it gets changed to South Carolina in May only to be changed once again to Virginia in July.

How does someone plan through all of this? It’s frustrating and hard but we make it work.

Just this week we changed my son’s birthday party around so that Daddy could be home for it. I didn’t have as much time as I would have liked to get ready but it didn’t matter. The party turned out just fine and I was so glad my son got to have his Daddy there for it.

When it comes to PCSing, it can be very stressful waiting and not knowing what is going on. My husband left in November of 2005 for Germany. My oldest son was 13 months old at the time and I assumed that it would take us about a month to join him over there. It didn’t. It took us until the end of March to get there. It would have taken even longer had I not purchased travel passports and bought our own tickets to go over there. During all that time it was all paperwork keeping us apart. It was such a frustrating time for me but common to go through stuff like that in the Military.

When it comes to deployments, you just never know when they are really going to go. Dates get moved and changed all the time. And a lot of times what they tell you about how long they will be gone changes. It is nice when they get to come home early but very difficult when they get extended.

Sometimes you have to wait on the Military to know if your husband can stay in or not. You have to wait and see what happen. Not knowing if you will be in the Army a year from now can be quite stressful.

I am the type of person who wants to have it all planned out. I want to know what I am going to be doing a year in advanced. Since my husband has joined the Military I have had to let a lot of that go. If I didn’t I would drive myself crazy. I still do sometimes. I just have to remind myself that this is how it is. That with the Army you can’t plan the way you want. Nothing is for sure until it happens. Hurry up and wait.

Have you experienced the unknowns of Military life? How do you get through them?


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  • Beth

    I guess that is something I will need to learn to deal with, as my husband just joined and will be heading off to BCT soon. I have already had moments of worry about whether or not we will be able to stay in after this term. I know I need to get over that.

  • Jen

    It is definitely a learning experience and sometimes you just have to go with the flow or you will go crazy.

  • reccewife

    It’s a learning curve alright. I have learned to not make any plans in stone until right then. Which sucks, I hate hurry up and wait!

  • Kelly

    Hurry up and wait is no fun… I’m a planner too. Learning to go with the flow of Army life has been one of the most difficult things for me. The unknown can also be lovely though, if you can learn to appreciate it! You’re a rockstar. And don’t you forget it!! 🙂

  • Lacey

    oh yes oh yes i do…we didnt get to have a wedding cause they pushed up deployment and well he wouldnt be there for it..

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