How Facebook Saved the Military Spouse
Back in 2007 during our first deployment, all my Army wife friends were on Myspace. A lot of my friends from back home were there too. It was the place to be. During the deployment we would spend time together at the park, head home, put the kids to bed and then login to share photos, comments and update our music list. We took quizzes and looked for old friends.
Back then I would log onto Facebook about once a week or so. It really wasn’t as popular even though people were posting there.
By our 2nd deployment people were moved over to Facebook, at least almost everyone. We play Farmville, shared photos and messaged our soldiers in Iraq.
By 2010, Myspace was pretty much a thing of the past and now my parents and their friends were on Facebook. It was a great way to connect with almost everyone. If I had to say goodbye to a friend who was pcsing to another place, we could still connect on Facebook. It is the easiest way to keep in touch with people from my past. It is the ideal place for a Military spouse, away from home, away from her husband and needing a place to connect with others when home alone with their kids or during work breaks during the day.
Now, in 2015, Facebook doesn’t seem like it is going to be going anywhere. I thought it might have had a bit of competition with Google+ but that didn’t pan out.
Facebook has saved the Military Spouse.
Here are many reasons why…
- They can share photos with their families back home.
- They can stay in contact with friends from past duty stations.
- They can learn about local events such as MOPS or what is going on through their local MWR.
- They can talk to local friends and make plans for the upcoming nights out.
- They can meet others in their neighborhood, ask for suggestions and sell some of their stuff.
- They can find groups for their interests and make new friends that love the same hobbies they do.
- They can look for jobs.
- They can promote their businesses.
- They can talk about their favorite tv show or book they have read since their spouse is not home to talk to about it.
- They can learn more about a new duty station and even start to make friends before they get there.
- They can find a church or other local group.
- They can help other spouses through problems or just be there to tell someone they are thinking of them.
Facebook makes the world a much smaller place.
It is a place to go to connect, to vent, to encourage and to explore. Sometimes I have even felt like my husband lived in Facebook when he was deployed overseas. It is just the way it is sometimes.
There are downsides to it. There can be bullying, there can be drama and there can be cases of over sharing. Sometimes I find myself learning much more about a person then I should really know. Politics can divide people, one uping each other can be annoying and we can spend too much time scrolling our feeds when we should be doing something else. But overall? Facebook can be the ideal tool for a Military spouse. It can help her in ways that nothing else can. It can be her support when her husband is deployed. It can be a tool to find a local group that she needed to find to help her make friends. It can lessen homesickness and remind them of fun memories they have made in the past.
How has Facebook helped you on your Military spouse journey?