4 Things to Remember if Your Spouse Has To Go To North Korea, Or Any Other Dangerous Place
Unless you have been living in a place that doesn’t get any news, you have probably heard that things are heating up in North Korea. It’s possible that more and more troops will have to go over there in the near future. And the fear of this happening is freaking people out. As this type of thing does.
There have been times when my own husband has had to deploy to a dangerous place. When I heard where he had to go, my heart skipped a beat. How could I handle this? How could I get through? What if he didn’t make it back to us?
For hundreds of years, military spouses have had to stand strong as their loved one went off to war. To wars, they might not even understand. To wars that didn’t always make the most sense. To wars that seems so scary and unpredictable.
How do you deal with a spouse that has to deploy to an active war zone? How do you handle the fact that they are not going to a “safe” place but a more dangerous one? How do you make peace with your spouse going to war?
Here are four things to remember if your spouse has to go to North Korea, or any other dangerous place:
This is what they are trained for
When you watch as your service member is packing up their bags, remember, this is exactly what they are trained for. That month they spent away from you this summer? This is what they were working on. As a soldier’s wife, I had to accept this, and it is hard to do so.
War is messy. War is difficult. New wars seem even more so. We have no idea what to expect. We have no clue what is ahead. But we do know that our spouses are in an amazing military and when they have to go, they have to go. And in the end, we know, they are making our world a better place.
You are not alone
You are not the only military spouse having to send their loved one to North Korea or any other dangerous place. You are not. There are so many others in your shoes too.
You are not the only girlfriend who is crying in their pillow because they know the person they want to spend their life with has to spend six months overseas before that wedding day comes. You are not the only wife who will be scared that their husband might not make it home in time to see their daughter being born. You are not the only one scared of what could happen during the deployment.
There are so many others out there that have a spouse with a dangerous job. They understand how you feel. They know how hard saying goodbye can be. They have been there, and they are willing to help you as you work through your own feelings about the current situation.
You can handle this
You can get through this. I don’t care where your spouse has to go, or how long they will be gone. You can get through this. I know it seems challenging and like your world is crashing in. I know when you see how many days they will be gone the deployment seems like forever, but you can handle this. Even if you have to do so one day at a time.
This deployment won’t last forever
At the end of the day, when you do say goodbye, whether you had two months to plan or two days, know that the deployment will not last forever. Deployments are temporary. I know when my Grandpa left for WWII, he didn’t know how long he would be away. In the end, he was gone three years.
These days are easier than that. These days you will get an end date. Even if that date changes, which it probably will, the deployment will eventually end. Remember that during your more difficult days. Remember, this too shall pass.
As a military spouse, you know that going to war is a part of the deal. That doesn’t mean saying goodbye will be easy or you won’t worry too much. That doesn’t mean that you won’t encounter unexpected challenges or worry you won’t be able to get through them. As a military spouse, you wake up every morning and work to figure out how you will get through the difficulties that a deployment or future deployment will bring.
As a military spouse, you wake up every morning and work to figure out how you will get through the difficulties that a deployment or future deployment will bring.
How you do deal with your spouse having to go to a dangerous place?
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