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Tuesday Ramblings

IMG_8824 * How is it October yet?  Didn’t 2014 just start? 2015 seems like the future.

* I can’t wait for Halloween. I think two of my boys are going to wear costumes that we already have. That used to bother me. I used to want them to have new ones but this year I don’t care and it saves money.

* This is the time of year that some of my friends I went to school with start having birthdays. They are starting to turn 36 which means I will be there soon myself. Sometimes I feel 20, sometimes I feel 40 so I guess 36 works.

* We just finished our first two-day drill weekend. It went fine. We stayed busy and I fell right back into the SAHM role. Told Ben that would expire at midnight.

* I think I watch too much tv but I really only do so at night or on a random weekend when we have nothing planned and I don’t want to clean anything.

* I love to read but find myself watching tv at the end of the day instead. Wish I could break that habit.

* I am still playing Candy Crush even though I took a 6 month break. I do it when I watch tv. I can pay attention when I do this. I can’t when I read which is a shame because it would be nice to be able to do that.

* I keep meaning to go to the gym 3-4 times a week and somehow it only ends up being about twice a week.

* I am going to CO in less than two weeks to see my only cousin get married. I am excited.

* I really need to take more photos with my big camera. The iphone makes it too easy.

* Sometimes when I miss Germany I think I just miss the slowness of it all. We didn’t have a lot to do which in some ways was nice.

* I am excited for Laura at The Everyday Joys. She was my very first Scentsy recruit and her team is rocking this month!!!

* The rest of my Scentsy team is amazing too :) I love how they all love Scentsy and work hard every month!

* I love having a dog. She is easier than I thought she would be, then again, she was over a year when we got her. I heard puppies are really hard.IMG_8912

* I still want a cat but don’t want to add that to the mix right now, maybe someday. Everytime I got to the pet store I have to stop and look at them though.

* I still want to move back to California but I am not dwelling on it so much right now which is good. I know it will get harder when the holidays hit.

* Sometimes I think we should stay in Clarksville and just move to a different part of town. It isn’t that I don’t like where I live but it would be nice to live closer to Nashville since Ben doesn’t have to drive to post everyday anymore.

 

What’s going on with you? How is your Tuesday going?

My Oldest Child Is 10 Today

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10!!! Today my oldest turns 10!!! So hard to believe! How am I old enough for this?
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As I think back to that day in 2004. I had Daniel at a birth center in Santa Rosa, CA before the Army. I wanted to give birth in water but ended up getting on the bed at the last-minute. He was born the morning of 38 weeks which I was thankful for. He was also born the same day, same room, same midwife as his older cousin who is turning 16 today :)

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The tradition at the birth center is to call in food for the new mom and spouse from a local restaurant. I ended up ordering a Mint chocolate chip shake. That is now Daniel’s favorite which is pretty funny.

We had him at 7:30 and we were home by 4:30pm. It was so nice to be in our own bed that soon after birth. I had trouble breastfeeding him at first. We tried hard to make it work by using a syringe. I was so determined and we ended up breastfeeding for 17 months!

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In some ways that day 10 years ago seems like a lifetime ago. So much has changed since that day. We have done so many different things. In other ways it doesn’t feel like that long ago. When I think about how he will be 20 in just another 10 years I kinda want to faint!

The first few days I camped out on our futon in our living room. I watched a lot of movies, blogged and just got used to having this little guy that I was responsible for. I had babysat so many times but it is nothing like having your own.

I had just become a stay at home mom and honestly I don’t remember too much about our days together back then. I do remember that Ben would get home from work and find us taking a nap together. Oh the joys of when your oldest is a baby. You can do things like that.

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When he was 6.5 months old we moved  from California to Kentucky in search for  lower cost of living. It felt like everything was split in half, from our rent to our insurance to our utilities. Ben got a full-time job and I worked a little from home. I made a few friends and then we decided Ben was going to join the Army. He left me and Daniel who was 13 months old at the time to head over to Germany. We joined him a few months later and started that adventure. download (30)

Daniel grew into a toddler and a very active two-year old. He was so hard to wear out and I was pregnant again with his brother. Ben left and I somehow go through that time. Ben came home when he was a little over three having missed his 2nd and 3rd birthdays. Those two were always so close and it was nice to see them bonded again right away.

We were in Germany until Daniel was 5.5 and we moved to Clarksville, TN to start our stateside version of the Army adventure. He started Kindergarten later that fall.

download (31)Now he is 10, in the 3rd grade, involved in Cub scouts, church activities and playing with friends. He loves Halo and Mindcraft and Skylanders like a lot of the little boys his age.

I look at him and I am starting to see the teenager he is going to become. It isn’t very far away, just a few more birthdays until we get there.

There is just something about your oldest that you don’t have with your other kids. They were the child that made you a mom and in some ways they are your parenting guinea pig. Sometimes you have no clue what you are doing so you try something and then realize you should have done it differently. I was the oldest in my family too and have that bond with Daniel.

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When he was three he was diagnosed as having a developmental delay, especially in speech. He has worked hard and these days you can’t quite tell all that he has been through with special education through the years. When he was 5.5 I remember crying my eyes out because I couldn’t have a real conversation with my little boy. These day he will talk to me about most things. It truly is amazing.

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He is my sweetheart. If I am crying, he will give me a hug and tell me everything will be okay. He is loving and caring to others. It warms my heart to see.

 

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So as he grows into a teenager and then a man, I hope to teach him how to handle all of that. It seems so scary as a parent. The next 10 years will really help shape who he is.

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Happy Birthday Daniel! I love you and I am so proud of the little boy that you have become.

To The Military Spouse With Toddlers

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2007 was a year for me. I had a newborn, two-year old and a deployed husband. We were in Germany and man, that was hard! All parenting is hard of course. It isn’t like life is easy now. We still have issues, bad days, tired days and I still need time to recharge as a Mom. However, back then, things were a lot harder. Based on my time as a mom, which is now at the 10 year mark, the toddler years are difficult, especially when you have more than one child about that stage.

The toddler years are rough for anyone, add in the Military and a deployment and you are in a very stressful situation.

We are past all that in our house. Yes, we have a 3.5 year old but we also have two older boys at almost eight and ten. They are very different from they were in 2007/2008. Very different.

So these days, I see friends with very small children and I can relate. I have been there. I know what it is like.

I know what it is like to…

* Wake up in the morning and wonder how you are going to make it through the day with these kids. To have to find things to do and ways to occupy your time.

* Not have someone coming home later that night to help. To be the only parent in the house. To be the one that does everything when it comes to the kids.

* Be the sole diaper changer. Meaning you change each diaper over and over and over again.

* Potty train a child by yourself.

* Wonder what the heck you are going to make for dinner because your toddler only likes chicken nuggets and you hate to cook.

* Be envious of friends who have never had to solo-parent more than a day or two.

* Take drives just to get out of the house and let your babies fall asleep so you can have some quiet.

* Have to figure out how you will get all of your groceries, a baby and a two-year old up to the third floor in one trip. You realize you can’t possibly do that so you have to decide who is going to go first.

* Not be the parent you want to be because you can’t seem to figure out how to do it all by yourself.

* Make decisions about if your child all by yourself because you simply can’t take with your husband for more than five minutes at a time.

* Not have any family nearby to help you out when you could really use it.

* Be so tired and exhausted that you can’t possibly imagine going another six months alone, but then you do.

* Fly across the world with just you and the kids.

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So to the Military spouses with toddlers, it’s going to be okay. You are living some of your hardest years as a parent and you are having to do a lot of that on your own. Sometimes it really really sucks and there isn’t much you can do to change it.

You have to depend on your friends, have vent sessions, meet for coffee, take the kids to the park and relax a bit. Know that you are doing the best you can with the life you have. Know that kids do grow and things get a little better. Know that as your children get older, life will get a little easier. Know that you won’t always feel like you do right now. Kids grow. They start school. They learn how to use the potty. They learn how to dress themselves. They learn how to make breakfast. They do, I promise. And when you get to that stage, you will look back and remember the days when it didn’t seem like all that was possible.

 

 

Summer With Little Boys in Pictures

Now that it is mid-September we can really say that summer is over. The first official day of fall is next week! I finally have been able to go through some of my photos that I took using my Canon, not my phone. I love being able to take photos on my phone but it makes it too easy to not use my big camera anymore.

Anyway, here are some photos from this summer :) We had a good one :)

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Time for fall!!!

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