I graduated college right before I turned 23. I started working in a job having nothing to do with my major soon after. I got married later that year and then had my first baby in 2004. I quit my job a little bit before he was born as I had always dreamed of being a stay at home mom. It wasn’t so much that I didn’t want a career; it is that I wanted to do that before I did anything else.
I am now 35 and am not longer a stay at home mom. I work from home so I get to see a lot of my children but I am not longer their main caretaker. It is now time for me to start working on my career, whatever that is going to be.
I feel like I do have a lot of choices to make. I have different directions I can go. I am just not sure how it is all going to work out.
I have friends that started a career right after college and waited to have kids. They might be a stay at home mom now but they haven’t always been that way. Some are taking a few years off, others are home for longer.
I started to wonder if I did it wrong. Should I have started my career first? Should I have worked towards something I could have done part-time all these years? Should I have even stayed home as long as I did?
It is hard to answer those questions.
I do feel very lucky that I had almost 10 years as a stay at home mom. I got to do so much with them. Even when my huband was gone and I was playing the part of mom and dad, I was thankful I could be home with them.
However, I do feel a little behind on my career. I am not a teacher or a nurse or someone who has years of career experience behind them. But maybe that doesn’t matter. Careers can happen at different times during our lives. Some careers come from a love or desire to do something different. Other comes from a dream or an experience someone had. As for me? I am a blogger, Scentsy consultant who loves photography. There are ways to make money doing all of those things. So does it matter that I don’t have a traditional career? That I am not really using my major like I could have? Maybe it doesn’t. Maybe this is my path based on my desires of motherhood mixed with a husband who was in the Army. Maybe my career is going to be customized to me and what works for our family. And I think I am okay with that.