Moving overseas is already a lot, but when your spouse deploys soon after, the loneliness can feel overwhelming. These practical tips can help you make a plan, find community, explore your new home, and get through the months apart.
What Military Spouses Want Their Civilian Friends to Know
I saw them every day. I went to school with them. Military kids. I remember driving on base to pick up a friend. I think the gate guards had to call her house to get their okay to let us in. This was pre-9/11 of course. I remember hearing about how my friend’s dad always…
No, The Military Isn’t The Same As Any Other Job; It’s a Unique Way of Life
Military life asks families to adapt in ways most people never see. From deployments and missed milestones to PCS moves and changed plans, this life is not just a job — it is a whole-family experience.
Dealing With Disappointment During Military Life
Have you ever planned a vacation only to have to cancel or reschedule it because military dates changed? Have you ever given birth when your husband was deployed because they simply wouldn’t send him home like you thought they might? Have you ever wanted to be stationed close to home only for your spouse to get…
When Your Spouse Wants To Re-Enlist in the Military and You Don’t Want Them To
It’s almost time for your spouse to re-enlist, decisions have to be made, and you feel like it is time to walk away from military life. However, your spouse does not agree and would love to do 20+ years in the military. What should you do? What can you do? Is it even fair to them…
When There is a Natural Disaster and Your Spouse is Deployed
I have been through my share of earthquakes growing up in California. Fortunately, I was never in any danger from any of them. After moving to the south, I have been through my fair share of tornado warnings, and they have been pretty scary sometimes. The biggest issue we have dealt with when it came…
To The Military Spouse That Is Having A Bad Day
Some days are better than others. This is true for everyone. Whether you are married to a member of the military, married to a teacher, married to a CEO, or married to a truck driver. This is true even if you are not married at all. Having bad days is a part of life. Over…
What to Think About Before You Marry a Service Member
Whatever situation you are in or whatever situation you have been in, you did have to make the decision to become a military spouse. You had to decide that YES, you wanted to spend your life with someone who is in the military. That YES, you wanted your future to include the military. So, what…
The Secret to Not Hating Your Duty Station
Have you ever lived in an amazing place and still hated being there? Maybe it was Hawaii? Or Europe? Maybe it was a place you thought you would love but now that you have been there a few years, you really can’t find the love? Maybe you are trying to bloom where you are stationed…
When You Don’t Feel Strong Enough For Military Life
I couldn’t believe he was gone. I couldn’t believe this deployment had started. I couldn’t believe I had to go through this again. I certainly didn’t feel strong enough for this. I didn’t feel strong enough for the deployment. I didn’t feel strong enough for military life. And yet, somehow, the days went by. Somehow…