My mom was in her 30s when she had her first baby, me. When I was in college I told myself I just wanted to have children by the time I was 30. But then, at 22, I met my husband.
I have always known that I would be a Mommy. I have never been sure about a career but I always knew I wanted children. I would go back and forth between 3, 4 and 5 children. I knew I wanted more than two. I met my husband and he too had always known he would have children. We met, got engaged about eight months later and then got married about eight months after that.
As soon as I got married I started having some pretty bad baby fever. It was like I found my mate, let’s get started. I remember going on a walk with Ben shortly after we were married and being sad that we were going to wait to start trying. We had decided that we would start trying on my 25th birthday which was about 18 months later. I wish that I had not tried to hurry through that pre-kid stage. But I guess I just always knew I would be a mom and couldn’t wait for that to get started.
So around my 25th birthday we started trying and ended up getting pregnant right away. I gave birth to our oldest son in September 2004 at the age of 25. Our whole world changed that day. We were now parents. Looking back, 25 feels so young, but in the end I think it was the perfect age for me. I had some time as an adult before I became a Mom myself but I got started before my Mom did so I knew I would be a little younger when the kids were growing up. I had baby #2 at 27 and baby #3 at 31. Now at 35, I am so glad it worked out the way it did.
Starting at 25 allowed my own parents to become Grandma and Grandpa in their late 50s. When my youngest graduates from high school I will be in my late 40s.
Now, had I met Ben at 18 or 28, it could have been different. I also know some couples that did get married when we did but waited a lot longer to have children. They had so much more pre-kid time than we did. I also have friends that started at a lot younger age than I did. By 25 or 26 they already had four children.
When my parents had me, they had been working for over 10 years. They owned a home. They were a lot more established than my husband and I were when we had our first.
So…when is the best age to have a baby? I think my answer is when it is the best time for YOU to have a baby. If you feel you should wait a little longer, do it. If you feel like you want to start trying, it might be time. There are pluses and minuses to having your babies at a younger age. And in the end I think it all works out the way it is supposed to.