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8 Tips for Military Spouses That Struggle With Anxiety

August 15, 2016 by Julie 5 Comments

8 Tips for Military Spouses That Struggle With Anxiety

Anxiety is rough. Anxiety goes beyond worry and a lot of time anxiety doesn’t make any sense. Anxiety can be brought on by stress and can be very difficult to deal with. As a military spouse, anxiety can bring up even more issues and knowing what to do when anxiety hits can be difficult.

8 Tips for Military Spouses That Struggle With Anxiety

Over the years I have experienced anxiety as a military spouse. I have cried more than I should. I have felt physical pain because of how anxious I was. I have been anxious about my kids, my car, my home, my husband, my future, money or anything else that could come up. I hate anxiety and yet some days I wake up to it, wishing it would leave me alone.

When you have a basic worry about something, you can look at the facts of the situation and talk yourself into not worrying about that issue anymore. Anxiety is a little different. Anxiety is feeling like you are worried about something but it might not even be a logical worry. Because it isn’t always so logical, anxiety is a lot more difficult to deal with.

Here are 8 tips for military spouses that struggle with anxiety:

1. It isn’t just you- Remember that you are not the only military spouse struggling with anxiety. You are not the only one trying to figure out how to be a supportive military spouse and dealing with the anxious thoughts you have or the pressure you feel from your anxiety. So many of us are dealing with this too.

2. It might not make sense- Anxiety is weird and as I said before, anxiety doesn’t always make any sense. I ask myself all the time why some days getting in a car is so hard for me and others it is as normal as brushing my teeth.

3. Seek extra help- If your anxiety gets to the point where you feel like you just can’t live a normal life anymore, talk to your doctor about what is going on. See about going to see a counselor. This will help a lot. Just being able to talk to a non-judgemental person who can offer you good advice can really go a long way.

4. Create a peaceful place in your home- When my husband was deployed the last time I created a special place in my home that I could go to when I was feeling really anxious. This allowed me a safe place where I could cry things out, write in my journal or just get back to a better place. See if you can create a place like this in your home to go to when you are feeling anxious.

5. Talk to others about anxiety- Talking to others about anxiety is helpful. People, in general, want to present themselves as having everything all together but so many of us are struggling with something. Talk to your good friends about what is going on. They might be able to offer their own stories and you can help one another out.

6. Take time for yourself- Yes, we need to stay busy during a deployment but we also need to take care of ourselves. If going out every day is too much for you, take a day off for yourself. If taking on one more thing is going to be too much, just say no. Make sure you are finding ways to take care of you even if it is something simple like a nightly bubble bath.

7. Dance it out- Dance, work out, do yoga, walk, run, find some type of exercise that you can do every day. This will help motivate you to get out of your house and help you as you make your way through military life.

8. Tell your spouse- Talk to your spouse about your struggles. Let them know how they can help. They might not understand what you are going through. They might not see how hard something simple is for you sometimes. Be open and honest with them so they can help support you.

Anxiety is something I will probably have to deal with for the rest of my life. Whether my husband is in the military or not. Whether we are going through difficult situations or not. Having good methods to help with my anxiety is a must.

Do you struggle with anxiety? What helps?

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  1. Nicole D'Amato

    August 15, 2016 at 11:42 am

    I love this! I struggle with anxiety and it’s especially hard with a husband in the military because there’s so much you can’t control. And my anxiety is escalated when there’s things going on that I can’t control. Thank you so much for sharing! What helps me is staying busy and distracting myself from my anxiety filled thoughts!

    Xo Nicole
    http://www.damatoadventures.blogspot.com

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  2. Kara, the Hippy MIlspouse

    August 16, 2016 at 9:17 pm

    I struggle with anxiety from time to time. It’s gotten better recently and I really attribute it to me taking better care of myself physically. Exercise has really helped me feel better.

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  3. Malori Mayor

    August 22, 2016 at 10:24 am

    I have struggled with anxiety and panic attacks my entire life (although I only recently realized that it HAS been a lifelong thing). And it’s so true: sometimes it does not make any sense! Thankfully I have a supportive spouse and also a great mom who will listen when I need to talk things out. 🙂

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  4. Molli

    March 1, 2017 at 11:28 pm

    YESSS. I struggle with anxiety so much, and to top it off, we just got orders for an OCONUS base. Here’s to staying sane the next 4 months!

    Reply
  5. Gina

    November 13, 2019 at 4:48 pm

    Wonderful article. Just so you know even when they retire you may struggle with it. My dh was 52 sent to Iraq and came home injured. I struggle with anxiety everyday. I worry about something all the time and sometimes I just need to stay home where it is safe. Thank you for talking about this.

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