Beyond Staying Busy: 18 Things That Can Truly Help You Survive Your Next Deployment
The #1 bit of advice you will receive during a deployment is to stay busy. That’s simple enough, right? But how about beyond that? What can you do on a day to day basis to get through your deployment? What can you do to make time move faster and not to feel like you are always falling apart when you are surviving a deployment?
Here are 18 things that can truly help you survive your next deployment:
1. Buy a journal, write in it daily
Find a pretty journal, even Walmart has some cute ones. Write in the journal every day. Make that a part of your routine. Share your day, share your feelings, and let everything out.
2. Find good friends
Find good friends and make plans with them. Don’t be shy. Put yourself out there when you can.
Laughing during a deployment is the best. Find people you can laugh with. Watch movies that crack you up. Don’t be afraid to have fun even if your spouse is deployed.
4. Focus on school
If you are in school, focus on your school work. If not, maybe now is the time to go back? Check out the programs in your local area as well as online.
5. Focus on work
Focus on your career. Don’t have one yet? Figure out what you want to do. Find a job and get started.
6. Focus on your family
If you have kids, focus on them. They will take up a lot of your time. You can also have regular phone calls with your family back home or even plan for some visits. Family can help with the hole in your heart left from the deployment.
7. Let yourself cry
If you are the type that feels like you need to cry, do it. That can help you get back to a better place.
8. Binge watch it all
Game of Thrones, This is Us, or any of the Netflix originals will work. If the solo nights are bothering you, binge watch something.
9. Find friends who are there too
Good friends are important and finding friends who are also going through the deployment are a must. You can walk through this together, make plans together, and depend on one another.
10. Make a deployment bucket list
Make a deployment bucket list even before they go. What do you want to get accomplished? What do you want to do with your kids? What can you focus on?
11. Stay on your normal routine
In some cases, sticking to your regular routine is the best thing to do. You can focus on what you normally do and keep living your life, even when your spouse is gone.
12. Wine, lots of wine
Wine or fruity drinks or even Dr. Pepper. Whatever gets you through the deployment.
13. Care packages
Some personalities love to send care packages, and they are an excellent way to spend your time. You can get super crafty with them or keep them simple. Remember to be aware of holiday ship by dates as well as when you need to stop sending things overseas because they are coming home.
14. Don’t dwell on it
While you can’t completely forget that they are deployed, you can try not to dwell on the fact that they are gone. When you feel like you are, snap yourself out of that and go and do something fun. Put on some music and get in a better mood.
15. DIY projects
DIY projects can be a lot of fun. Whether you are repainting your kitchen or creating something original. Pinterest can give you a lot of ideas as well as Facebook groups such as White Walls.
16. Go to the gym
Go to the gym, go for walks, train for a 5K, whatever you do, find a way to get out there and exercise. Not only is this good for your health, but working out is a good way to get your anxiety and frustrations out.
17. Slumber parties
If you can find a good friend, whose kids get along with yours, have sleepovers. If your spouses are deployed over a holiday, you can have them to not feel as alone. Put the kids to bed, stay up late drinking wine, and vent over all the silly stuff from the day.
18. Stay social
Stay social. Get out there and meet others. Be active. There is so much you can do, especially if you live near post. See what is out there and make plans.
Not all of these tips will work for everyone, but they can give you a good idea of what you can do to survive your next deployment.
What would you add to this list???