Deployment

When You Miss Them

When You Miss Them

When you miss them, your heart can feel like it will never be the same. When you miss them, you feel that deployment ache, and know that no matter what, a part of that ache will be there until they return home. When you miss them, you have to find ways to make it through, to live your life, even with your hurting heart. As a military spouse, deployments will come. There is nothing we can really do about that. Some deployments will come more often than others, there will definitely be seasons, and you will figure out how to …

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When You Don’t Feel Strong Enough For Military Life

I couldn’t believe he was gone. I couldn’t believe this deployment had started. I couldn’t believe I had to go through this again. I certainly didn’t feel strong enough for this. I didn’t feel strong enough for the deployment. I didn’t feel strong enough for military life. And yet, somehow, the days went by. Somehow I made it through that deployment. Somehow I was strong enough to do just that. Through that deployment, and other past deployments, I realized something powerful. Not feeling strong enough to get through something doesn’t mean I am not strong enough to do so. Often …

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When You Are Sick And Your Spouse Is Deployed

When You Are Sick And Your Spouse Is Deployed

If you are a military spouse, and you get sick, it is probably going to be when your spouse is deployed, or otherwise not at home. You can thank Murphy’s law for that, I know I have been hit by Murphy myself. While you can get to a place where you feel you are rocking a deployment, a stomach bug can turn things upside down, especially if you have young kids. So…what should you do? What can you do? Here are some helpful tips for when you are sick and your spouse is deployed: Ask for help When you are …

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So You Just Found Out You’re Pregnant, And Your Spouse is Deploying

So You Just Found Out You’re Pregnant, And Your Spouse is Deploying

You were trying, or maybe you weren’t. But the test is clear. You are pregnant, maybe with your first, maybe with your 4th but you know what this means. Another baby… A sibling for your two-year-old… You are growing your family, just like you wanted to. And as happy as you are, as excited as you are, there is something looming over your happiness. Your husband, the father of your child, is deploying soon. And you aren’t sure how you are going to handle everything. You just found out you are pregnant and he’s deploying… When I found out I …

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The Camo in my Living Room

The Camo in my Living Room

I walk into my living room, and it is there. The camo. The color of the military. Normally, this all lives in other parts of the house, put away, until it is needed. But today, I can see his military gear, and I know what that means. The camo in my living room means he is getting ready to go. To serve. To train. To fight. The camo in my living room means that I won’t be able to see him for a while. That he will be living somewhere else. That it is time for him to go. Sometimes …

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The Deployment Journal For Spouses

So you spouse just deployed, and you feel a bit lost. You just aren’t even sure what you are feeling but you know you are feeling something. You just want to get it all out. Have you ever thought about keeping a deployment journal? I have been writing in a journal since I was about 16 years old. I love them and while I write more during certain times of my life over others, I still keep one to this day. During my deployments, they were like a best friend for me. Anytime I was upset, felt angry, or was …

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Deployments Never Truly Go Away

Deployments Never Truly Go Away

A Military spouse is never going to forget how hard it was to let their spouse go, how lonely the nights were or, how happy they were when they finally came home. It’s been years since the first time my husband deployed, over a decade ago. But that deployment changed my life forever, as it changed the lives of so many of my military spouse friends. That deployment changed my husband and all of the men he served with. That deployment still comes up in my mind, and I always think about those who lost so much during those 15 …

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To the Burned Out Solo Parent

To the Burned Out Solo Parent

It’s almost bedtime, almost. You start your bedtime routine at 6:30 on the dot and if all goes well, the kids will be alseep by 7:30, or 8:30, usually by 9, but sometimes even as late as 10:00. It just depends. As your spouse is deployed at the moment, it really doesn’t matter how long bedtime takes, it will still be 100% on you to get those kids to bed. There will be no trading off nights, no asking for help, no relief if you had a burned out day and need to just chill by yourself for a bit. …

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When Your Spouse is Deployed and You Only Have Two Hands

This post is sponsored by Baby Tula! I was also provided free product for review. Whenever my husband was deployed, I hated going to the grocery store. I know there are more options these days such as grocery store pick-up or affordable delivery services, but back during our previous deployments, we didn’t have any of that. So, once I had three kids, it became a big issue. I could sometimes get around this by going to the grocery store when my older two were in school, or trade with a friend. However, there were sometimes when I still had to take all three and head to the …

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How to Celebrate Valentine’s Day if Your Spouse is Deployed

How do you like to celebrate Valentine's Day when your spouse is deployed?

It’s time for Valentine’s Day! The holiday all about love. The one where you feel the pressure to buy your spouse candy chocolates, or flowers, or teddy bears, and make plans to go out to eat on the most crowded night of the year. Super fun right? Or not… Maybe you think the whole thing is silly. A holiday made up by Hallmark to get spouses to buy cards for each other, and make more money. And with the lack of candy hearts this year, is Valentine’s Day even worth worrying about? (PS I did find some at Target a …

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