To the Military Spouse Who Feels Very Much Alone
There have been times during my years as a military spouse where I have been surrounded by other people. Even when my husband was far away, in another country, I still had people who understood me. Although I was lonely for my husband, I wasn’t alone.
Having the benefit of military spouse friends can help you through even the most difficult of deployments. But not everyone has them, and sometimes you can feel very much alone, even within a sea of people.
Some spouses have barely moved into their new home after a PCS before their husband has to leave for an extended amount of time. Some spouses have just experienced PCS season where dear friends have moved far away, and they are left wondering when they will meet someone new.
Some spouses have tried to find their people but feel that there is no one else in this community like them.
They want to find the friends others have talked about but it is proving to be difficult. There are many reasons why a military spouse can feel alone and adding a deployment on top of that can be quite frustrating.
So, to the military spouse who feels very much alone, I hear you.
Life isn’t easy right now. It’s frustrating and seems like it will last forever. That nothing will change. But I will tell you that simply isn’t true.
Military spouse, days will go by, and you will find that you can make it through them.
You will eventually meet someone you click with. You will find your people.
Your spouse, who is too many miles away, will come home. They will be there on a daily basis once again, and you will be able to enjoy one another.
Military spouse, these might be your hardest of days, but you will find a way through. We always do.
We can find fun activities for us and our kids to do. We can take up a new hobby or work on our home. We can find a new career or go to school to start the process of beginning one.
Military spouse, the days might be long, but you will endure. You will find people who understand, even if they are online. You will smile at a neighbor, you will laugh at your friend’s child, and everything will seem like it is going to be okay.
You will have nights where you cry yourself to sleep. Know, that you are not alone in this.
Even the most together military spouse has moments when she feels the deployment ache and wants her spouse back at her side.
Life is filled with up and downs; military life is no different. There will be seasons of deployment, seasons of pcsing, and seasons where they are home with you and everything feels a bit more normal than it has been.
Military spouse, if you are feeling very much alone, see what you can do to break out of this feeling.
It could be that you need to call a friend or a family member. Maybe you need to join that group you have seen advertised down the road. You could go out and volunteer or apply for that job that looks interesting.
I think there is always something you can do to make life a little easier for yourself. Although at times this can seem too difficult, putting yourself out there is a must.
Doing so is the best way to move past the loneliness and discover that you can truly live your life, even if your husband is not home with you.
So whether you feel alone because your spouse just deployed, because you just moved somewhere new and didn’t know a soul, or are in a season where things don’t seem too great, know that life will change, things will get better, and you won’t always feel this way.
And remember, if you need to seek more professional help, do so. There is no shame in it. Counselors can help with anxiety, depression, or anything else you could be dealing with. And they can truly be the way to get through this season of your life.
What do you do when you are feeling alone?
Last Updated on June 24, 2021 by Julie Provost