The Type of Military Spouse It’s Okay To Be
You see it’s okay to be you. You are your own person. You have your own likes, dislikes and belief systems. You are who you are.
It’s okay to cry during a deployment, and it’s okay if you don’t. We don’t all handle deployment in the same way.
It’s okay to go home for a deployment because you feel that is what you need to get through. It’s okay to stay at your duty station because you can’t imagine going anywhere else while they are gone.
It’s okay if your house is kinda messy all the time and it’s okay if you are a neat freak that can’t sleep if anything is out of order.
It’s okay if you binge watch something every Friday night, and it’s okay if you never watch tv.
It’s okay if you have two children, or three children, or five children. It’s okay if you never want children and want to stay childfree.
It’s okay if you are a Christian, it’s okay if you are a Muslim, it’s okay if you are Jewish, it is okay if you are Hindu, and it’s okay if you don’t practice any type of religion at all. We all come from our own backgrounds and we all worship who we are going to worship.
It’s okay if you are a Republican, it’s okay if you are a Democrat, and it’s okay if you are not sure what you are and don’t want to pick a party.
It’s okay if you want to buy a house at your duty station and it is okay if you don’t want to own until after military retirement.
It’s okay if you want three dogs and it’s okay if pets are the last thing you want to deal with.
It’s okay to be frustrated that you can’t find a job and it is okay to be happy that you are finally a SAHM.
It’s okay to be from a tiny town in Georgia, and it is okay to be from New York City and it’s okay that the two of you are best friends who met at a base in Hawaii.
It’s okay to love the show Army Wives, and it’s okay to hate that show with every fiber of your being.
It’s okay to be excited about going to spend four years in Germany, and it’s okay to be scared to death about leaving everything you have ever known.
It’s okay to go all out, hire a photographer for homecoming and spend $100 on an outfit. It’s okay to bring along a friend with an iPhone and to wear your favorite outfit from last year.
It’s okay to go to every ball and dance the night away. It’s okay to skip them and never attend, even if your spouse has to go.
It’s okay to love the FRG and volunteer to help. It’s okay to say no thank you and not attend spouse events as a general rule.
You see, these are the types of military spouses you are okay to be. It’s okay to be you.
What is not okay is to bash others you don’t understand. It’s not okay to make fun of a spouse that is having a harder time than you are. It’s not okay to be unfaithful to your spouse, especially when they are deployed. It’s not okay to use the D word (you know the one) when referring to those you don’t understand.
You see, the military community is a diverse place. Military spouses are not all the same, and we can learn from one another. We come from all over the US and even other countries. We have different backgrounds and don’t all think the same.
But the one thing we have in common is that we are married to someone serving in our military. We have to say goodbye to them as they leave for deployment. We have to pack up everything and move every few years. We have to be strong, even when it feels like we can’t be anymore.
You see, the type of military spouse that it’s okay to be is one who is loyal, one who is able, one who is willing, and one who will do what they need to do to get through each day.