What a Military Spouse Will Never Understand

I have been married to a soldier for almost two decades now. When we met, he was no longer active duty and ended up re-joining the Army after we had been married three years. As much as I can stand by and support him, there are things that I will never understand. There are things that a military spouse can never understand. I will never understand what it is like to say goodbye to my family, small children included, to put on the uniform and put myself in harm’s way. I will never understand what it is like to go …

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When You PCS and Have To Leave Your Job

This is a sponsored post for T-Mobile with Sofluential Media! Things are going great for you. You love your job, your kids are in a good school, and life feels right where it needs to be. But then, your spouse comes home from work one day with the news, you guys are PCSing to the other side of the country. And you leave in four months. You panic. You can’t help it. What will you do? What about your job? What about your career? If you have ever been in this situation, you know how stressful it can be. When …

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10 Lessons You Learn During Life As A Military Spouse

10 Lessons You Learn During Life As A Military Spouse

Life always teaches you something. No matter what you are going through, there is always something new to learn. And if you are a military spouse, there are many lessons you can gain through military life. Here are 10 of them: That you can, in fact, do things on your own, without your spouse by your side Before your spouse joined the military, you might have assumed there were certain things you needed them to be there for. You will learn quickly that this is not the case. At the same time, while you realize you can do things without …

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The Joys of the Modern Military Spouse Life

The Joys of the Modern Military Spouse Life

We now have Walmart Grocery Delivery. I am so excited! Not only for myself but for all the parents with small children, going through a deployment, who loathe having to take their kids to the grocery store with them. I have been there so many times. Put the baby in my baby carrier, put a toddler in the cart, hoping they won’t open anything, and make your older child walk beside you. Going to a grocery store with all your kids is a big chore. And it isn’t very fun. But, thanks to modern life, you no longer have to …

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Deployments Never Truly Go Away

Deployments Never Truly Go Away

A Military spouse is never going to forget how hard it was to let their spouse go, how lonely the nights were or, how happy they were when they finally came home. It’s been years since the first time my husband deployed, over a decade ago. But that deployment changed my life forever, as it changed the lives of so many of my military spouse friends. That deployment changed my husband and all of the men he served with. That deployment still comes up in my mind, and I always think about those who lost so much during those 15 …

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The Milspouse Guide to Spring Cleaning

The Milspouse Guide to Spring Cleaning

Spring is right around the corner, and a time to clean out our homes, and get things a little more organized. Maybe you are going to be PCSing this next year, or may you are not going to moving anytime soon, but either way, working on your home is a good thing. Here are some fun tips to help you with your spring cleaning: Remove extra PCS stickers, you know you still have some from your last move. Unless you want to make a PCS sticker ornament. Do you really need to keep those curtains? You haven’t used them in …

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Twas the Night Before Christmas…Milspouse Style

Twas the night before Christmas, and all through the house, no one was stirring, except one military spouse. She knew what tonight was, but wasn’t feeling the cheer, her husband of 12 years was simply not here. He was serving his country, on deployment #4, she simply couldn’t wait until April, when he would walk through the door. Her kids were in bed, excited for morning, they didn’t want to go, despite her stern warning. She looked at a picture, taken last year, when he was home beside her and she didn’t have much to fear. But this year was …

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9 Reasons You Know You Are Married To A Soldier

9 Reasons You Know You Are Married To A Soldier

9 Reasons You Know You Are Married To A Soldier I feel like the Army surrounds me, every day. My husband is now in the Nashville Guard, but we live near Fort Campbell, which is a very Army town. There is no getting away from Army life around here. Whether it is hearing that a friend’s husband is deploying soon, seeing at all the bumper stickers on the cars, or even hearing training on post, even from 15 minutes away. I have been an Army wife for almost 13 years now, longer if you count his IRR time. Being a …

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Finding Meaningful Friendships In Military Spouse Life

Finding Meaningful Friendships In Military Spouse Life We all need people. People we can depend on, people we can connect with, and people we can have meaningful relationships with. We might make a new friend, and find out they are moving in three months. We might have the perfect group of friends, knowing we will PCS in just a few months. We might be brand new to our duty station and feel overwhelmed with starting over yet another time. The truth is, we need to find these meaningful friendships to help us through our military spouse lives. Having a deployment buddy …

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Dealing With Disappointment During Military Life

Dealing With Disappointment During Military Life

Dealing With Disappointment During Military Life Have you ever planned a vacation only to have to cancel or reschedule it because military dates changed? Have you ever given birth when your husband was deployed because they simply wouldn’t send him home like you thought they might? Have you ever wanted to be stationed close to home only for your spouse to get orders clear across the country? Most military spouses have been through one or all of these disappointments not to mention others that can happen when you are a military spouse. Dates change, your spouse can’t always be around when you …

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