When Your Best Friend Moves Away
5 years ago this week I said goodbye to one of the best friends I ever had. We went through so much together. A deployment, a space-A trip, we talked about everything and our children were the best of friends. But then it was time for us to PCS. To leave and to move on.
In just a couple of months, I will have to say goodbye to another friend. Someone I don’t want to say goodbye to. But it is time. Her husband has orders for somewhere else and she has to go. Our sons are the best of friends and so are we.
One of the hardest things to do is to say goodbye to a best friend. There is no easy way to do it. You go through a lot of emotions…
You don’t want to believe they are leaving. Even though you know it is coming, you try to ignore it because you think you have plenty of time. And then you don’t.
They tell you they have a move out date. Then it feels real. You think you need to spend more time together because those 4 years went by way too fast. You wonder what you will do after they are gone. You worry that you will never have another local best friend again. And then they have to go and you have to say goodbye and it stings. Because that chapter of your story together will be over. And no matter how long it was, it will never ever seem like long enough.
You think you need to spend more time together because those 4 years went by way too fast. You wonder what you will do after they are gone. You worry that you will never have another local best friend again. And then they have to go and you have to say goodbye and it stings. Because that chapter of your story together will be over. And no matter how long it was, it will never ever seem like long enough.
The truth is, when a friend moves away, you will never ever be able to replace her.
She is someone who will always be special in your life in the ways that make her who she is. You will always have your memories, your inside jokes, and your history. Your relationship will have to change. Instead of getting together every week, you will spend your time together texting or on Facebook. No, it isn’t the same but it is your new normal. Time will go on and maybe you will get to visit each other.
When you do, you will notice the little differences that have taken place since you were last together. But at the same time, you will connect just like no time has passed. You will make other best friends, so will she. But you will always have your time together.
You will always have those memories and when you are old and grey and look back on the years you had on earth, she will always come to mind as one of the special ones. One of the people who made you the person you are. And you will always be thankful for that.
The friendship you had with her will give you hope. Because you remember how it felt when you had to say goodbye to your last friendship and then you met her and everything was okay again. And so it will be in the future. There are always new people to meet. There are always new friendships to be had. And sweet memories to keep with us for all time.
Mines going to PCS away soon. I don’t even want to think about it.
Love you Julie!! I know how hard this is why you where that friend and then in El Paso Monica was that friend. Now I am “HOME” though it doesn’t feel like how at all. In pat it is home, where I grew up and went to school, but there is another part of this home. The part that feels more like a PCS area where I am trying to make new friends and having no luck. Loosing good friends is hard and it will always be hard. Your life gets busy and your trying to move forward and loose contact for a few months and then rekindle what you had with that sisterly friend. Its hard, hugs to you my friend as you are doing this again.