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Why I Had An Epidural After Two Natural Births

August 14, 2015 by Julie 10 Comments

Why I Had An Epidural After Two Natural Births

A few months ago I wrote all about my natural births. How it was very important for me to go natural and how that worked out. However, for baby #3 I did not go natural. I decided to have an epidural and I wanted to explain why. I will say that birth choices should be made by each mother. Not by the doctor, midwife or anyone else. If you want to go natural, you should. Don’t let anyone tell you it is too hard. If you want an epidural, get one. Don’t let anyone tell you that it is not the best choice for you.

When I got pregnant with my third child, I was tired. Yes, I know all pregnant women are tried, but I felt more tired with this pregnancy. I was older. The older you have a baby the more tired you will feel. I also think that you can only really tell this if you have a baby at different ages. So if you are having your first child in your 30s you are not going to be to be able to tell as much as someone having their 3rd or 4th at that age. I could be wrong but that is my theory and I am sticking with it.

I was 25 with my first, 27 with my 2nd and was now 31 with my third. I could feel it. My best friend also had her last baby at 31 and she said she felt the exact same way. That it was a lot more tiring. It could also have had to do with the fact that we had other children running around that we had to take care of too.

I found out I was pregnant with my son in March of 2010, right after we moved back to the United States from Germany. As the pregnancy went on, we started hearing about a deployment. However, we were told my husband would not have to go until at least January, a few months after the baby was born. He had stop loss until November even though the Unit was leaving in August. I was due December 1st.

Then around the time I was about 7-8 months pregnant they started telling us that he would have to go the last week of November. Maybe. I started freaking out a bit. What if he had to go and that night I went into labor, would they send him back? What if I had the baby two days before he was supposed to go, would they let him stay? Who could I have with me just in case he wasn’t there? Although I had given birth before without my husband, I didn’t want to do it again.

So all of this lead into my decision to not be so into natural childbirth. It wasn’t that I didn’t care. It wasn’t that I didn’t think that was a good choice anymore. I just was tired and couldn’t think about how I could really do it this time, especially if my husband was not there. I needed him. During our 1st birth he was my rock. I just didn’t think I could do it again without him.

So I did what I always told others not to do. I was going to wait until we got to the hospital to decide on the epidural. Now, if you truly want a natural birth, if that is important to you, you can not wait until you go into labor. You have to prepare ahead of time. With exercises and with your mind. You have to decide that natural is how you are going to give birth unless there is a medical reason not to. You have to understand that if you give birth in an American hospital, you will be asked if you want drugs. You have to prepare for that. You can’t just decide when you get there. Because if you haven’t made that decision yet, you will ask for those drugs.

I knew all of this. I knew it well and at the time, I didn’t care anymore. I really just wanted to have a baby.

So in the end the Army was nice to us and pushed my husband’s deployment off. He ended up leaving in February when our son was a few months old.

One night, a couple of weeks before I was due, I went into labor at 3:30 in the morning. My friend came over to stay with our other boys, we headed to the hospital at Ft. Campbell, BACH and by the time we had checked it, it was about 4:30.  I was in a room where they were making sure I was actually in labor and how far I was. I was at a 4 and they asked if I wanted an epidural. I said “yes” and that I never had one before. They couldn’t really believe why I had not had one before. I kinda had to roll my eyes because I never regretted having natural births. But this birth was different and for this one I wanted an epidural.

My son was born around 6:15am. He came fast. We went to the birthing room, they gave me the epidural and then he was born. They tell me the epidural didn’t have time to work. Trust me, it did. Having gone through the ring of fire before, trust me, it did something.

My little red-head came out so fast I didn’t even know what was happening. It was quite the experience.

I am 99.9% sure I will never have another baby the rest of my days. However, if I did, I am not sure what I would do. I go super fast. Each birth was faster than the other. So I think I would consider a home birth. Who knows? I am glad I experienced the epidural. I am good with that choice. I want the same for every woman. I don’t want anyone to feel they should do something they don’t want to do. Birth choices are so important.

How did you birth your babies? Would you do things differently if you could go back and do it all again?

Last Updated on June 24, 2021 by Writer

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  1. Alia Osburn

    August 14, 2015 at 7:19 pm

    I totally agree that mama should choose how her birth goes, I’m so glad your husband was able to be there.

    Reply
    • Julie-Soldier'sWife,Crazy Life

      August 25, 2015 at 4:22 pm

      Yes, totally! Most important thing 🙂

      Reply
  2. Julie S.

    August 16, 2015 at 12:33 pm

    Definitely agree that it should be the mother’s choice and each time a new choice can be made. I only have one baby right now, had him at 31 and needed to be induced so it took all day. I couldn’t have done it without the epidural. I bet a future baby would be more exhausting and I’m sure I’ll want the epidural again.

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    • Julie-Soldier'sWife,Crazy Life

      August 25, 2015 at 4:27 pm

      It is so great that we have options. We really have to do what we feel is best. Thanks for sharing 🙂

      Reply
  3. Alejandra

    August 16, 2015 at 8:10 pm

    My unmedicated babe (2nd kid) was only because she was ready to make her entrance almost as soon as we got to the hospital. I had no ring of fire issues, but damn those contractions! With our third, I knew I was going to get the epidural, but I wanted to wait as long as possible, to see how much I could handle. It wasn’t much. I admire natural birth mamas! Epi was the way to go for me though!

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    • Julie-Soldier'sWife,Crazy Life

      August 26, 2015 at 6:23 am

      Thanks for sharing! My best friend has 4 and all epidural births by choice.

      Reply
  4. Tammi @ Momma's Meals

    August 18, 2015 at 12:44 pm

    Good for you for sticking to what you wanted Momma! The epidural didn’t work for my first however I didn’t know it until my second came around. I almost didn’t have a second because of how bad my first birthing experience was. THANK god I did!

    Reply
    • Julie-Soldier'sWife,Crazy Life

      September 18, 2015 at 12:21 pm

      Thanks for sharing!

      Reply
  5. Amy

    October 27, 2017 at 11:54 am

    Yaaaassss.

    I’m firmly in the natural-is-best camp…. except that we’re all individuals, and we change across the course of our own lifetimes.
    Isn’t it great we have these options? I’m so happy you had THREE positive birth experiences!

    Reply
  6. Mera

    July 13, 2020 at 12:54 am

    This is an old post, but I am processing my experience of having an Epi after 2 beautiful natural births. My husband and I were laughing because, yeah… I was just tired and also 31, and also giving birth during COVID-19. I don’t regret it but I am trying to process it, as I do feel like I missed out a little bit for my personal experience. But everyone should choose what they want, it is personal and not about bragging rights! Anyway, thanks for the post! So many correlations, haha.

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