Our 11th anniversary was on the 3rd. I usually like to blog about marriage that week. I am a little behind but will be blogging a little bit about marriage the next few days.
I was 23 when I got married and I am 34 now. He was 26 and now he is almost 38. We have defiantly been together a while…although not as long as some.
I have learned a lot over the years and if I were to write a letter to my self on my wedding day, this is what it would say…:)
Dear Julie,
It is almost time for you to get married and I have somethings I want to say to you.
First of all, don’t rush anything. Don’t rush your wedding day, your honeymoon or the years before children come. Embrace them. Embrace the time you have together before starting a family. Children will come and with them your life with change. It isn’t as though things will be bad. You will have good experiences and difficult ones once the kids come along. But they will change everything. So embrace that time with your new husband. Have fun together, go on trips, enjoy life.
Secondly, know hard times will come. They will come and it will make you feel like your heart is breaking. You two will have to be apart for a time but try not to worry about it right now. When the time comes remember your love for each other and what you guys have. You will make it through those years as hard as they might be. They will make you a stronger couple. Just remember the good times and look ahead to future times when you are missing each other so much.
Julie, your life with Ben is going to be very different than you think it will be and that is okay. Not very many people have the exact life they planned for themselves when they were younger. There will be curveballs and things you won’t expect. There will be very good and exciting times and very sad and frustrating times. Just know that you are marrying the right man and he will be with you through everything. Every step of the way he will be there and you will walk through all the challenges together.
Have a wonderful wedding day,
Love Julie from the future.
I love this! It’s so sobering when everything else about your wedding day is planned for everyone else and you’re almost at the point where you just want to get it over with. I just might take this idea and write myself a letter on my wedding day (part II, that is) and dig it out in 10 years! Great idea! 🙂
This is such a sweet post! I would tell myself not to worry so much! God is in control of everything!!!
I would tell myself get married the first time you wanted too do not try to make everyone happy. And that your love for each other can withstand distance. We made a bad call with the hubs not taking a job because we would be 6 states away and we had only been dating 3 months. At that time I never wanted to get married and did not think we would last the distance. Coming up on 8 years and we have never spent more than 18 months together without 6 months or more apart.