As military spouses, what happens in the world can hit us hard.
We wonder what it will mean for the military, what it will mean for our spouse.
We just don’t know what will happen and we can get pretty freaked out by it all.
Some say this is what our spouses signed up for, but the reality is, we can never really know what a military career will look like.
By marrying a service member, we start a new journey.
Will it lead us to amazing places? Will we find our community? Will we be challenged beyond anything we could ever imagine?
Yes! Yes! And Yes!
Military life means deployments and moving, probably too often. It means going days, sometimes longer without being able to talk to the person we love. It means sitting back and having to wait to see what will happen next.
As the country tries to figure out what is going on overseas, we sit there knowing that if it isn’t our spouse going over there right now, it is someone else’s. If it isn’t our soldier leaving soon, it will be someday. And we know how hard these types of things can hit the military community as a whole.
I can tell you to stay strong, but the tears might still come. I can tell you not to worry, but there is so much to worry about. I can tell you to depend on your friends, and maybe that is the only thing you can do right now.
As I watch what is happening in the news, I wonder what is to come. Will this be another Iraq? Will this not be quite as bad as we think it might be? What is going to happen?
I wish we could see the future so we know what is ahead. I wish we could plan everything for the next five years. But the reality is no one really can, and as military spouses, we can’t know which way the tide will turn. We don’t know what all of it means for our spouse.
We have to just stay strong, as much as we can. We have to reach out when things feel a little too much. We can’t let all the little comments get to us, because let’s face it, not everyone is going to say the right thing.
This is an emotional time. There are many different viewpoints about what we should do, even within the military community. There are many different ways this could go.
There are so many things you will go through as a military spouse. Maybe your spouse will only serve for a few years, and you will look back at this time as the “Army years.” Maybe your spouse will serve over 30 years, and deployments are going to be apart of the memories of your life together. Whatever the case, saying goodbye to your spouse is never easy, especially when you are unsure of where they are going off to.
I can remember sitting with my friends and our kids at a McDonald’s in Germany. Our husbands, who had been deployed for over a year, were being extended. This seemed impossible. It seemed like something that couldn’t possibly happen.
But it did…
And as heartbreaking as that news was, as hard as the next few months were, somehow we got through that long deployment. Somehow we made it through those unsteady days.
When I see the articles about service members being deployed because of this new threat, I feel so much for their families.
For the new spouse, who didn’t think this would happen so soon.
For the seasoned spouse who thought this last year of military life was going to be uneventful.
To those who have been through this before and to those who have no experience with a long separation.
Know that we see you, and we have your back. The days won’t always be easy, but you have people praying for you. You have people who get it. You have people in your corner.
No matter what happens today, or tomorrow, or next week or next month, know you are not alone. We have each other. And that is something we can depend on!
Don’t forget to check out The Newbie’s Guide to Military Life: Surviving a PCS and More by Soldier’s Wife, Crazy Life and Mrs Navy Mama. Your guide for learning about military life.