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Holding Onto the Memories: Losing My Grandparents Too Soon

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Losing My Grandparents Too Soon

There is a graphic going around Facebook that says something about being able to go back to your grandmother’s kitchen, just for a moment. So many of us have memories of our grandmother’s kitchen. I know I do.

As a young girl, I remember baking cookies with my grandma. It was a tradition; sometimes certain smells remind me of those days. The smell of coffee mixed with a slight whiff of cigarette smoke from my grandpa brings me back to her kitchen in Glendale, Arizona.

I can remember where the table was, the fridge in the corner, and the TV where they watched a lot of Wheel of Fortune. The carpet was the same type of carpet you might find in an elementary school, and my grandma had one of those vacuum sweepers to clean up messes.

I walk through their home in my memories often and think about all the time I was able to spend there. The long drive from California, the hot pavement in the heat, and the cactus out front that we called our cactus family.

As I remember my grandparents, I also think about the fact that I lost them too soon. I never met my paternal grandfather, he passed a few years before I was born. My paternal grandmother passed away when I was just 4 years old so I have very little memories of her.

My maternal grandfather passed away when I was about 14 and at the same time, my maternal grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease. And while she lived until I was 23 years old, I felt like I lost her much earlier than that.

Holding Onto the Memories: Losing My Grandparents Too Soon

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The Pros and Cons of Life as a Military Family

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Life as a Military Family

At some point in your life, you, as a military spouse, had to decide to become a part of a military family. Either you choose to marry someone in the military, someone who would be joining the military, or you and your spouse decide together that they would join the military.

If you have been a military spouse for any length of time, you already know that military life is filled with highs and lows. There are pros and cons to this lifestyle. Within the years that your spouse serves, some will be better than others.

The Pros of Life as a Military Family

Community

One of the biggest pros of being in a military family is involvement in the military community. While this may differ a little based on where you are stationed, some fantastic, close-knit military communities exist. In addition, there are support groups and other types of groups military spouses can join to find community.

Living Somewhere New

Moving every few years can come with a lot of stress, but it can also be an amazing thing to experience living in different places. You will, of course, love some places over others, but learning about new areas and cultures is a fantastic perk about being in a military family.

The Benefits

It can be easy to dismiss some benefits, but they are very much in the pro column regarding military life. TRICARE can be a significant pain sometimes, but these benefits are HUGE compared to what you might find in some civilian jobs. In addition to TRICARE, military life comes with BAH, money for housing, BAS, money for food, and access to military discounts.

Lessons Learned

During your time as a military spouse, you will learn so much. You will learn about yourself, about patience, and how to be resilient, and you will be able to accomplish more than you ever thought you would be able to do. These are life lessons you will gain and take with you for the rest of your life.

The Cons of Life as a Military Family

Being in a military family makes for a complex life. And not everything is so great. Some things about this life can be pretty tricky. Let’s talk about the cons of life as a military family:

You Probably Can’t Live Near Family

While there are times when you may be able to get stationed near family, and in some cases, they might move to where you are, for most military families, once they join the military, you will no longer be able to live close to home. This can be difficult for some people. Raising children far from grandparents, extended family never seeing you, and just feeling like you don’t have a place at home anymore can be hard to handle.

Deployments

I think we all know having to send our spouse away to war and missing them for months at a time is a big con to this life. That doesn’t mean every second of deployment will be horrible. Many positive things can come from a deployment, and at the end of the day, a deployment is what our service members train for. Still, they are never easy to overcome and can be a big con in military life.

Uncertainty

If you are a planner like me, the uncertainty of military life can drive you crazy. Even if you get orders, they could change. If you get a long-awaited date, it might not be set in stone. You must be flexible and never assume anything is 100% until after it happens.

Career Challenges For Military Spouses

When you must move often, a military spouse’s career can take a hit. Having to start over every few years is exhausting. Luckily, there are many military spouse employment resources out there to help.

It can be easy to list the pros and cons of military life, but at the end of the day, your family needs to do what is best for your spouse and your family. While the cons can feel overwhelming, the pros might just be worth continuing in this military life.

The Pros and Cons of Life as a Military Family

Changes to TRICARE Coming in 2024: What You Need to Know

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Changes to TRICARE Coming in 2024: What You Need to Know

Oh TRICARE, it’s our favorite, isn’t it? Well maybe, maybe not, but TRICARE is our military insurance and like it or not, TRICARE is here to stay.

The new year will bring changes to TRICARE

With a new year, there will be changes to TRICARE that you need to be aware of, especially if you live in one of the six states mentioned below. There will be a new contract for TRICARE known as T-5. According to TRICARE, the changes will improve the delivery, quality, and cost of healthcare services for service members, retirees, and their families.

States are moving

The BIGGEST change that you need to be aware of is that some states will be moving from TRICARE East to TRICARE West. In 2024, TRICARE will continue to have two regional contractors. Humana Military, or Humana Government Busines for TRICARE East, and TriWest Healthcare Alliance Corporation for TRICARE West. Currently, and through the end of 2023, Humana Military is the contractor for TRICARE East, and Health Net Federal Services is the contractor for TRICARE West.

You should know which region you are in based on the state that you live. However, if you live in these states:

  • Arkansas
  • Illinois
  • Louisiana
  • Oklahoma
  • Texas
  • Wisconsin

you will be changing from TRICARE East to TRICARE West. The changes will begin in January 2024, and if you are affected by them you should be notified of what you can expect.

Only certain TRICARE plans use regions:

  • TRICARE Prime
  • TRICARE Prime Overseas
  • TRICARE Select
  • TRICARE Select Overseas
  • TRICARE Young Adult
  • TRICARE Reserve Select
  • TRICARE Retired Reserve

If you do have one of these plans you can find out more information about regions on the TRICARE Region page.

Other positive changes to TRICARE coming in 2024 are:

  • More efficient referral transfers between the two regions 
  • Greater provider network flexibility
  • Improved beneficiary choice
  • Enhanced telehealth appointments

Hopefully, these changes to TRICARE make everything a bit better for everyone.

TRICARE Plans

There are actually quite a few different TRICARE plans depending on what you want to have, how your service member is serving, and active duty status. As you can see, there are many different TRICARE plans out there.

  • TRICARE Prime
  • TRICARE Prime Remote
  • TRICARE Prime Overseas
  • TRICARE Prime Remote Overseas
  • TRICARE Select
  • TRICARE Select Overseas
  • TRICARE For Life
  • TRICARE Reserve Select
  • TRICARE Retired Reserve
  • TRICARE Young Adult
  • TRICARE Plus
  • US Family Health Plan

If you are active duty, you can choose between TRICARE Prime and TRICARE Select. Some families do this because of what they have access to or if they want to see a certain provider that wouldn’t be possible to see if they stayed on Prime. If you are overseas, you would of course need to use the Overseas options. As a National Guard family, we use TRICARE Reserve Select, and we would not be eligible for TRICARE Prime unless they are activated.

If you are unsure about what plans you can qualify for you, check out this nifty TRICARE Plan Finder. You enter your information and the results will tell you what you need to know.

How much does TRICARE cost?

Curious about TRICARE costs? Use this tool to figure out what they would be based on the type of TRICARE plan you have and your sponsor’s status.

There is a lot about TRICARE to be overwhelmed about, but reading up on the differences and using the tools that are provided can make things a little more clear. I have been using TRICARE for almost 18 years now and I still haven’t quite figured it out.

Great News! EFMP Will Be Standardized Across All Military Branches

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Great News! EFMP Will Be Standardized Across All Military Branches

Have you heard of EFMP? EFMP stands for the Exceptional Family Member Program. This program is an enrollment program that works with different agencies, both military and civilian, to make sure that military families with special needs can receive the support they need at their duty stations. EFMP is the reason you may or may not be able to be stationed in certain locations.

Active duty service members are required to register for EFMP as well as making sure their status stays updated. This is to make sure family members are able to receive the right housing, education, medical care, and personnel services that they need.

Being stationed in a place where you couldn’t receive much-needed therapy can be a problem. While this does sometimes complicate issues when it comes to where a service member needs to go for their career vs where a family can go to get services, EFMP can be a good thing to make sure family members get exactly what they need.

Up until recently, each service branch had its own regulations and guidelines when it comes to EFMP. However, the DoD has made some changes to standardize the EFMP program. This is much needed and should have been done a long time ago.

Who qualifies for EFMP?

Military families who have any emotional, developmental, physical, or intellectual needs that require any special treatments, therapies, education, counseling, or training qualify and need to sign up for EFMP. If you are on OCONUS orders, you will need to go through EFMP screaming. My son and I had to do this before we did a PCS to Germany. At the time we didn’t have any diagnosed special needs and weren’t aware of any, so our doctor filled out a form saying so.

What will the changes in EFMP look like?

According to Gilbert R. Cisneros Jr., Under Secretary of Defense for Personnel and Readiness, “Service members can’t focus on the mission when they have concerns about a family member’s health or education needs. Enrollment in EFMP provides families access to critical services and support, no matter their service branch or location. We will continue our work to enhance EFMP to better serve our military families.”

The DoD Office of Special Needs is enhancing the Exceptional Family Member Program to help improve the experiences of military families in every branch in the following ways:

  • Medical services will coordinate the documentation of the special needs and the family’s enrollment in the EFMP. Identification and enrollment will be standardized.
  • Each branch will use the same criteria when it comes to the assignment process. You will also be told what the reason is if you are declined a location.
  • Family members will be able to connect with resources that can help. EFMP Family Support providers will help with this.
  • There will be guidance and transparency when it comes to disenrollment. The disenrollment process will be standardized.
  • There will be revisions when it comes to respite care, such as a consistent number of hours across the services and covering adult dependents who are eligible for respite care.

You can read more about this on the DoD Press Release page.

Hopefully, these changes will help improve things for EFMP families. Not being able to find the care that you need when you or a family have special needs can be frustrating, especially when trying to balance that with the military lifestyle.

Junior-Enlisted Service Members and Their Families Heading Home for the Holidays Through Jack Daniel’s and the Armed Services YMCA’s “Operation Ride Home”

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More Than 10,000 Individuals Have Traveled From Their Military Bases 
to See Loved Ones Across the County Through the Program Since 2011

The Jack Daniel Distillery and the Armed Services YMCA (ASYMCA) said today that nearly 2,000 junior-enlisted service members and families will be making the trip home to see loved ones this holiday season through their “Operation Ride Home” (ORH) program. 

Jack Daniel’s once again kicked off this year’s campaign with a $100,000 donation — bringing its overall ORH commitment to more than $1.2 million — and is asking friends to visit operationridehome.com where they can contribute to the cause. More than $2.3 million in overall donations have provided travel funding over the past 12 years.

Since its founding in 2011, Operation Ride Home has provided financial assistance to active-duty, junior-enlisted military and their families to travel from their base of duty to homes across the country.  More than 10,000 people have traveled by airplane or car through ORH.  Service men and women from the Army, Marine Corps, Navy, Air Force and Coast Guard have been assisted with travel to all 50 states.

“From Alaska to Virginia, our hero junior-enlisted military and those with families will be able to leave their bases and make it home to share the warmth of the holiday season through Operation Ride Home,” said Chris Fletcher, Jack Daniel’s Master Distiller.  “It is an honor and privilege to support these heroes who otherwise would not have the means to make it to see their loved ones.  We hope our friends will join us to get as many of them home as we can this year.”

“Going home for the holidays is a privilege that many military families miss out on far too often due to the expense of travel, said Armed Services YMCA President and CEO, VADM Bill French, USN (Ret.).  “Thanks to our terrific partnership with Jack Daniel’s, the Armed Services YMCA has removed the financial barrier for junior enlisted service members and their families.  Our service members deserve to be with the ones they love the most this holiday season.”    

The ASYMCA works with the various military commands in specific areas co-located with ASYMCA branches to identify and prioritize junior-enlisted service members and families most in financial need. Plane tickets and pre-paid debit cards are given to assist those traveling.

Operation Ride Home is open to active-duty E-5 and below, both single and married, who might not otherwise financially be able to travel home. The option to drive or fly is an individual decision. For additional information on eligibility and to view participating installations that qualify for travel assistance, please visit https://www.asymca.org/operation-ride-home.

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About Jack Daniel’s:

Officially registered by the U.S. Government in 1866 and based in Lynchburg, Tenn., the Jack Daniel Distillery is the first registered distillery in the United States and is on the National Register of Historic Places. Jack Daniel’s is the maker of the world-famous Jack Daniel’s Old No. 7 Tennessee Whiskey, Gentleman Jack Double Mellowed Tennessee Whiskey, Jack Daniel’s Single Barrel Tennessee Whiskey, Jack Daniel’s Tennessee Honey, Jack Daniel’s Tennessee Fire, Jack Daniel’s Tennessee Apple, Jack Daniel’s Tennessee Rye, Jack Daniel’s Sinatra Select and Jack Daniel’s Country Cocktails. Today, Jack Daniel’s is a true global icon found in more than 170 countries around the world and is the most valuable spirits brand in the world as recognized by Interbrand.

Your friends at Jack Daniel’s remind you to drink responsibly.

Jack Daniel’s, Jack and Old No.7 are registered trademarks of Jack Daniel’s © 2022. Tennessee Whiskey, 40% alc. by vol (80 proof), Jack Daniel Distillery, Lynchburg, Tennessee. 

About the Armed Services YMCA:

The Armed Services YMCA (ASYMCA) is the oldest military support organization in the United States, founded in 1861. The ASYMCA’s mission enhances the lives of active duty junior enlisted military members and their families in spirit, mind and body through programs relevant to the unique challenges of military life. In 2021, the ASYMCA engaged nearly 130,000 individuals and delivered more than 550,000 points of service through its 12 Branches and 24 Affiliate Partners, serving 89 military installations across the U.S. To learn more about how the ASYMCA is “Strengthening Our Military Family(R)” visitwww.asymca.org.