Enough With the Dependa Crap
I’m over it. I am so tired of the dependa crap. I am tired of people throwing that word around, using it to demean others, using it as a weapon, and hiding behind it as if it makes them better than anyone else.
Enough with the talking down to other military spouses because they live their lives differently than you do.
Enough with the Facebook group bashing because you think you are right and don’t have room for other opinions.
Enough with assuming military spouses are only there to take from an unsuspecting soldier.
We as a military community are better than that!
We should be anyway.
We should be showing other military spouses compassion.
And if we can’t do that, then we should learn how to keep our mouths shut.
We don’t have to be friends with everyone, we don’t have to like everyone, but enough with calling people names when we don’t get along.
We are all in this together.
We all go through deployments, we all have lonely nights, we all know what it is like to wait for someone.
In the midst of solo parenting, we don’t have the time for this.
The truth is…
Some of us military spouses work outside the home, some of us work in the home.
Some of us are stay at home parents, some of us have been over the years when it worked best for our families to do so.
Some of us have college degrees, some of us don’t.
Some of us are going back to school, and some of us are waiting until our children are a little older.
Some of us work 9-5 jobs, some of us work the overnight shift.
Some of us have been military spouses since we were 18, some of us joined this lifestyle at 30.
Some of us have five children, some of us have one child, and some of us are okay with a child-free life.
Enough with the dependa crap!
It doesn’t look good on you, hate for others never does.
We are a community of diverse, unique, and amazing men and women. We might be from different places, we might have different backgrounds, but the one thing we all have in common is supporting a military service member.
And are their military spouses that are doing things to hurt their service member? Sure, what community doesn’t have that? But in my personal experience, these spouses are not the norm.
Quit calling out an entire community, and work to make relationships within it.
Quit assuming that anyone that says something positive about the military is just using their spouse; there are some pretty amazing things about being a military spouse and it is okay to talk about them.
Quit assuming that anyone that is having a difficult time with this lifestyle deserves to be made fun of, not everything is easy and sometimes we do need that extra support.
Enough with the dependa crap!
It doesn’t make sense, it tears us apart, and it tears apart the very community we need during our time as a military spouse.
Do better, be better, understand what you can, and have grace for what you can’t.
I have met so many military spouses during the last 13 years that I have been a military spouse. Almost every single one is trying to do what they can to love their service member spouse, raise their children if they have them, work on their own careers, whatever they might be, and strive to handle this crazy lifestyle.
Enough with the dependa crap! We are so much better than that!
Please do keep us in mind for your next Family Readiness Group or even for your own homecoming moment. I know that the photographer in the non-profit LOVE being able to do this for you guys, and many of them are military spouses or service members themselves.