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Blue Stars by Emily Gray Tedrowe Book Review

February 18, 2015 by Julie Leave a Comment

Blue StarsIt is always exciting for me to get a book review request about a fictional book having to do with Military families. I always enjoy reading them because they each offer a different perspective on war and living life as a Military spouse. I had the opportunity to review Blue Stars by Emily Gray Tedrowe and just finished the book last week.

BLUE STARS brings to life the realities of the modern day home front: how to get through the daily challenges of motherhood and holding down a job while bearing the stress and uncertainty of war, when everything can change in an instant. It tells the story of Ellen, a Midwestern literature professor, who is drawn into the war when her legal ward Michael enlists as a Marine; and of Lacey, a proud Army wife who struggles to pay the bills and keep things going for her son while her husband is deployed. When Michael and Eddie are injured in Iraq, Ellen and Lacey’s lives become intertwined in Walter Reed Army Hospital, where each woman must live while caring for her wounded soldier. They form an alliance, and an unlikely friendship, while helping each other survive the dislocated world of the army hospital. In the end, both women are changed, not only by the war and its fallout, but by each other.

What I liked best about this book is the two different women we get to learn about. Neither one is your typical Military spouse, if there is such a thing. One is the adoptive mother and the other is the wife who married her Army husband later in life. They both experience so many emotions during the book and it is so hard to know how I would have handled the situations they went through. Knowing that my husband could have been in their loved one’s shoes was humbling as well.

Ellen is not someone who ever saw herself in the role she was put in. That makes for an interesting point of view. I liked how the author explained how she was feeling and how she was dealing with it all.

Lacey’s story is very different from Ellen’s but the two come together because of Walter Reed. It is an unlikely friendship but one that I know happens time and time again just because two people are going through the same sort of difficulties. I have seen it happen in my own life.

I have heard stories about Walter Reed but not like this.  I never knew what the day-to-day looked like and it seems like this book does a good job of letting the reader know what it can be like to sit by your loved one who is there because they were injured overseas.

EMILY GRAY TEDROWE is the author of Commuters: A Novel, which was named a Best New Paperback by Entertainment Weekly. Her short fiction has been published in the Chicago Tribune’s Printers Row Journal, Fifty-Two Stories, and Other Voices. Her new novel, Blue Stars, was conceived during her brother’s Marine service in the Iraq war. Originally from New York City, Emily now lives in Chicago with her husband and daughters. For more information visit her website at www.emilygraytedrowe.com

 

I received a free copy of this book for review. This post does contain an affiliate link. 

Filed Under: Military Life Tagged With: Book Review

What I Miss About Active Duty Life

February 9, 2015 by Julie 1 Comment

What I Miss About Active Duty Life

What I Miss About Active Duty Life

It’s been almost 8 months since my husband ended his Active Duty Army life. We haven’t moved away from Ft. Campbell so we are still surrounded by the Military and since he is in the National Guard we still experience some of that life. We still have Army stuff in our house, we can shop at the Commissary and I go on post several times a week with no issues. However, there are a few things I do miss about life as an active duty Army family. If your spouse has gotten out of the Military, you might miss these as well.

1) On post Housing- We didn’t live on post during all of our time as an active duty family but we did for a few years and a part of me misses it. I liked how everything was close by, how my husband could come home for work, how it made things a little easier when it came to where we lived and the bills we had to pay. When you live off post you do get a little more freedom and it is quieter but you also give up more of the convenience of it. With my husband no longer being active duty, living on post isn’t an option anymore. That chapter is forever closed.

2) Healthcare– Now that we are a Guard family, our healthcare is a little bit different. We still get Tricare, just a different type. After almost 9 years of Tricare Prime, it was hard to get that first bill for a doctor’s appointment. At the same time, I am thankful for the healthcare I do have because I know it could be a lot worse. I am thankful that we were able to be on Tricare Prime when I was pregnant, having babies, taking them to doctor’s appointments every few months and needing the ABA services that we received. I think it would be a lot harder to do that now, with the insurance we now have.

3) Upcoming PCS– Although we are technically free to move away from this area whenever we want, we can’t do so until we have a plan that will work. Sometime I think about PCSing out of here. Of having the Army come, pack us up and take us on our next journey. Of researching the next post. Of asking questions about what it is like there and what services they offer. It will never be like that again for us. Sometimes I miss when that was possible. I see friends heading off to new places and part of me wishes we were too.

I know once we move away from here I will miss even more about Army life. I will miss all my Army wife friends. The ladies that know what it is like to do it all alone for months at a time. The other women that get how beautiful a homecoming is or how hard waiting for orders can be. The friends that get the frustration that comes with waiting for promotions, days with no communication with your husband and having to explain to your child why Daddy isn’t going to be home for a while. I will miss all of that so much. I am thankful that I haven’t had to give all of that up quite yet.

I am sure that when the time comes to say goodbye to the Army once and for all, it will be quite emotional. I am thankful that we are doing it this way. Saying goodbye to some of Military life without having to shut the door on it completely. I know that day will come and it will be bittersweet.

What about you? What do you think you will miss about Military life? What do you miss if your spouse has gotten out?

 

Filed Under: Deployment, ETSing, Military Life, National Guard

Supporting Your Spouse’s Military Career

January 23, 2015 by Julie 1 Comment

Supporting Your Spouse's Military Career

Supporting Your Spouse’s Military Career

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Filed Under: Military Life, ETSing Tagged With: military life

The Berenstain Bears and the Biggest Brag by Mike Berenstain Book Review

January 19, 2015 by Julie 2 Comments

Berenstain Bear books

When I was a little girl, bears were my favorite animal. I loved them. So of course I LOVED the Berenstain Bears. I think my favorite one was the one about the junk food. My mom liked the messy room one.

Over the years I have tried to pick up a few for my own boys.

I was given the opportunity to review, The Berenstain Bears and the Biggest Brag.

It is written by Mike Berenstain. He grew up watching his parents, Stan and Jan, working together to write and draw these lovable bears. Eventually he started drawing and writing about them too.

It was published by Zondervan!

This book is good for children of all ages. You can read it to them or they can read it to you.

The book is about how brother and sister bear keep trying to one up each other. I think a lot of kids like to brag. They are trying to figure out their place in this world and when they discover they are good at something, they want to share it. Between siblings it can be such a battle. That is what this book is about. Brother and sister bear are trying to one up each other and Grizzly Gramps comes and explains why they shouldn’t be doing so.

In the back of the book you can find activities and questions you can ask your own little cubs. This is great because it gives you some good ideas on how to make this real for your kids and to get them to think about it. I like how each of the Berenstain Bear books have a lesson we can teach our children. Whether it is something they are struggling with or just something that is important to learn.

The illustrations are fantastic and really show the detail of the bear’s world as well as what they are experiencing.

 

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookLook Bloggers book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Filed Under: Military Life Tagged With: Book Review

My Dog Ate My Garden And 2015 Gardening Plans

January 14, 2015 by Julie 2 Comments

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Last year I decided I was going to focus on less variety of plants and grow more of the same types of things. I also wanted to grow corn. We had an old plastic pool and I made that into a garden. I was pretty excited about it all and then we got a dog. At first, she stayed away from the garden for the most part. I thought it was fine. Then one more I woke up to all of my little corn seedlings thrown around the garden. We should have put up a fence after all! Lesson learned.

 

I also started working from home full-time which didn’t allow me much time to garden anyway. In the end we had tomatoes and peppers that we grew in containers, some lettuce and herbs and that was about it.

Looking ahead at this year I want to keep it simple. I still have my beds but not sure I will do anything with then this year. I would have to put up a fence!

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I think I can buy something cheap for my garden pool to keep it safe and we plan to reuse our containers on our deck.

We are thinking we will stick to tomatoes, peppers, snap peas, herbs and lettuce. Maybe strawberries. I always fail at those though.

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I also planted some tulips in my front yard and will be excited to see them grow. I want to experiment with some different types of flowers as well. I just adore flowers but they seem way too expensive to buy here. I used to get them weekly in Germany but they were only about 2-3 Euro.

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I need to spend some time clearing out some of the old plants from last year and getready to start growing new ones. Seedlings will need to start in a few weeks and I am excited about that. I love planting the seeds and watching them grow.

Do you garden? What will you plant this year?

 

Filed Under: Military Life

Faith Shift by Kathy Escobar Book Review

January 5, 2015 by Julie Leave a Comment

 *I received a free copy of this book in hope of a review on my blog! This post includes affiliate links!

The Christian faith can be such a complicated thing. We are all raised with a set of beliefs and as we grow older we develop our own. We go through different things in our lives that might make us question a few beliefs that we never have before. We might start to wonder about other faiths and if what we believe is the truth or what living out that faith should really look like.

Over the last few years my faith has changed a little bit. I am trying to figure it all out. That is why when I saw the book, Faith Shift by Kathy Escobar, I knew I had to read it.

Hope for spiritual refugees, church burnouts, and freedom seekers.
 
After years of participating in a comfortable faith tradition, many find themselves in a spiritual wilderness, feeling disillusioned with church, longing for more freedom and less religion in their lives.

If that describes you, you’re in good company. Countless men and women are in the middle of a shifting faith—and aren’t sure where to turn. 
 
What if you discovered that losing beliefs doesn’t mean you have to lose your faith?
 
Pastor, friend, and spiritual director Kathy Escobar has journeyed with many who have experienced significant shifts in the faith they once considered unchangeable. Through their stories and her own, Kathy has discovered that growth and change are natural parts of life in our relationship with God.

Filled with honest stories and practical insights, Faith Shift gives language to what many experience as their faith evolves. With an inviting blend of vulnerability and hope, it addresses the losses that come with spiritual shifts and offers tangible practices for rebuilding a free and authentic faith after it unravels.  
What feels like an ending can become a new beginning. 

I knew this book would help me along my journey and I was very inspired by it. The author talks about her own struggles and how she came to be where she is today. I also loved how she included different stories from other people. This is very helpful because it allows you to see that you are not alone in your questioning or your thoughts about different things. There are also discussion questions in the back of each chapter so this would also make a really good book for study in a group.

If you are struggling or wondering what is next on your faith journey, you would get a lot out of this book. The author goes through the different steps of a faith shift and how to get through them. I also like that this book isn’t a “how to” book but more of a “I get it, this is what worked for me and others” type of book.

Filed Under: Military Life

Favorite Books of 2014

December 31, 2014 by Julie Leave a Comment

This post contains affiliate links!

 

In case you haven’t noticed. I love to read. I always have. This year I read 39 books. Not my best year since I started tracking. I don’t really have a goal for books but I find the numbers interesting.

Out of the 39 books I read, here is a list of my top 10! My 10 favorite books from the year 🙂

1) The Fault in Our Stars by John Green-I started reading this one way before the movie. I was just going to read a few pages and before I knew it I was almost halfway through. It is a quick read and an interesting story about two teens with cancer who fall in love. Read the book, then see the movie.

2) The Wednesday Sisters by Meg Waite Clayton-I heard about this from another blogger and it sounded really interesting to me. It was the story of best friends who started meeting at the park when their kids were little in the late 60s. It takes place in the Bay Area and I was hooked right away. There is a sequel I still need to read.

3) The Longest Ride– I haven’t read too many of Nicholas Sparks books but I heard good things about this one. The story goes between an older man who is stuck in the snow and a young couple. I hear they are making a movie in 2015 and I hope it turned out to be good. It really is a great story.


4) Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children by Ransom Riggs- I had seen this book before and it looked interesting to me. I started reading it a few weeks ago and it drew me in. It is the story of a 16 year old boy who grew up with a Grandfather who told him the most interesting stories. They always assumed he was making them up until the boy finds out that he really wasn’t. I also finished the 2nd book in the series but liked the first one a lot better.

5) Matched by Ally Condie- I love dystopian fiction. Ever since the Hunger Games I have found other series that are similar and this is one of them. In this world everything is controlled. People are only allowed to list to 100 songs or read from a list of 100 books. They also don’t get to pick who they marry. They are matched. This story is about a girl who gets matched with her best friend. This rarely happens and was a very interesting book. The other two in the series were not quite the same but overall I really enjoy this series.

6) Witches of East End by Melissa De LaCruz- I wanted to read this one once I saw the show. It has most of the same characters as the show but things are very different. It is about a mom and her two daughters that happen to be witches living in a small town called North Hampton.  I am on the waiting list for the next one.

7)Written in my Own Heart’s Blood by Diana Gabaldon- As a fan of the Outlander series, I couldn’t wait for this book to come out. I was waiting about two years for the book since I finished the last one. This book continues the story of Jamie and Claire as well as their daughter Brianna and her husband Roger.

 

8)Beautiful Ruins by Jess Walter- I bought this book because of the cover and took it with me camping. It was a great story about an island near Italy, an American movie star and it takes place in the 1960s as well as present day. I would love to read more by the author in the future.

9) Full Measures– I love it when Military spouses write fiction books. This book is a love story between the daughter of a Military man who is killed in action and a local Hockey star. Their relationship is emotional and enjoyable. It was written by Rebecca Yarros who blogs at The Only Girl Among Boys.

 

10) Wedding Night By Sophie Kinsella- I loved the shopaholic series and as I wait for the next book to come out I decided I wanted to read the author’s other books. Wedding Night is the story about a crushed girl who runs into an old flame and decides to marry him right away. It’s funny and takes them to a romantic island.

What were your favorite books this year?

Filed Under: Military Life Tagged With: books

Our 11th Christmas With Kids

December 25, 2014 by Julie 3 Comments

I was just thinking about how this is our 11th Christmas with kids. 2004 we had a little three-month old baby and we have only grown from there. Having kids at Christmas time can be a magical thing. To see their faces, to remember what that felt like. It’s amazing. They have been there even when Ben has not been home to celebrate with us.

This post is a picture post of all those Christmases and magic they brought into our home…

 

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Looking through all these pictures made me remember those years and how different some of them were. Daniel’s 1st Christmas we were able to spend time with both Grandparents. Christmas of 2006 was spent in Germany with a newborn, my parents and Ben home on R&R. Christmas of 2007 was spent in California after a long 15 month deployment. 2009 was the year we did a smaller Christmas and then went to visit a few countries on our cruise. 2011 was the first year the boys got Legos. 2013, I didn’t take as many photos for some reason but I remember it being a good day. And this year? This year has been a strange one. A lot of changes for our family. Some I am having a hard time with but I just have to believe 2015 will be a good year. Getting out of the Army is hard, even if you think you have figured it out. All I can do is look forward to the future and know that I have a great family, a wonderful husband who I am in still in love with and I am blessed in so many different ways.

Merry Christmas to you all. I hope you have a great day. And if you are sad, lonely or missing someone, just know that tomorrow is another day 🙂

 

Filed Under: Military Life Tagged With: christmas

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Welcome to Soldier’s Wife, Crazy Life! I am so glad you are here.

My name is Julie and I first became a military spouse in 2005 when my husband of 3 years re-joined the Army. Then, in 2014, he joined the National Guard. In January of 2024, he retired from the National Guard after 21 years of service.

During our time in the military, we got to spend 4 years in Germany as well as Tennessee where we now call home.

We have three boys and have been through four deployments together.

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