These pictures were all taken last Memorial day in Santa Rosa, CA at one of the cemeteries there. I was visiting my in-laws and we went to the ceremony. Ben was in Iraq and I started getting really emotional about seeing so much of the community out for the ceremony.
A Military Wife
Lots of moving…
Moving…
Moving……
Moving far from home…
Moving two cars, three kids and one dog…all riding with HER of course….
Moving sofas to basements because they won’t go in THIS house;
Moving curtains that won’t fit;
Moving jobs and certifications and professional development hours.
Moving away from friends;
Moving toward new friends;
Moving her most important luggage: her trunk full of memories.
Often waiting…
Waiting…
Waiting…
Waiting for housing.
Waiting for orders.
Waiting for deployments.
Waiting for phone calls.
Waiting for reunions.
Waiting for the new curtains to arrive.
Waiting for him to come home,
For dinner…AGAIN!
They call her ‘Military Dependent’, but she knows better:
She is fiercely In-Dependent.
She can balance a check book;
Handle the yard work;
Fix a noisy toilet;
Bury the family pet…
She is intimately familiar with drywall anchors and toggle bolts.
She can file the taxes;
Sell a house;
Buy a car;
Or set up a move…
…..all with ONE Power of Attorney.
She welcomes neighbors that don’t welcome her.
She reinvents her career with every PCS;
Locates a house in the desert, The Arctic, Or the deep south.
And learns to call them all ‘home’.
She MAKES them all home.
Military Wives are somewhat hasty…
They leap into:
Decorating,
Leadership,
Volunteering,
Career alternatives,
Churches,
And friendships.
They don’t have 15 years to get to know people.
Their roots are short but flexible.
They plant annuals for themselves and perennials for those who come after them.
Military Wives quickly learn to value each other:
They connect over coffee,
Rely on the spouse network,
Accept offers of friendship and favors.
Record addresses in pencil…
Military Wives have a common bond:
The Military Wife has a husband unlike other husbands; his commitment is unique.
He doesn’t have a ‘JOB’
He has a ‘MISSION’ that he can’t just decide to quit…
He’s on-call for his country 24/7.
But for her, he’s the most unreliable guy in town!
His language is foreign
TDY
PCS
OPR
SOS
ACC
BDU
ACU
BAR
CIB
TAD
ABU
And so, a Military Wife is a translator for her family and his.
She is the long- distance link to keep them informed;
the glue that holds them together.
A Military Wife has her moments:
She wants to wring his neck;
Dye his uniform pink;
Refuse to move to Siberia;
But she pulls herself together.
Give her a few days,
A travel brochure,
A long hot bath,
A pledge to the flag,
A wedding picture,
And she goes.
She packs.
She moves.
She follows.
Why?
What for?
How come?
You may think it is because she has lost her mind.
But actually it is because she has lost her heart.
It was stolen from her by a man,
Who puts duty first,
Who longs to deploy,
Who salutes the flag,
And whose boots in the doorway remind her that as long as he is her Military Husband,
She will remain his military wife.
And would have it no other way.
–Author Unknown
I have posted about my Space-A trip that I took last summer. Space-A part 1 and Space-A part 2. But I haven’t posted about the return trip. Since it is almost summer again I figured I better post it before I forget too much 🙂
After spending a wonderful summer in California it was time to head back to Germany. Instead of trying to get a flight out of Travis AFB which is about 8 hours from where I was, I took a commercial flight to Charleston, SC to meet up with my friend who was heading back to Germany too. I had a hotel booked in the city so when we got to the airport we just had to get the van to the hotel. I was so tired once we got in that I was glad my plan was to meet my friend the next day.
The next morning I woke up and called a van to take us to the Air Force base. He picked us up and dropped us off right in front of the Pax Terminal where you catch your flights. Inside the terminal they do have a kids room with toys, cribs and tvs. That was nice. We chilled there for a few hours and then decided to get something to eat.
I decided to walk the boys to Burger King. Well it was about a 10 minute walk and we get there and it was closed. Keep in mind it was the end of August in Charleston so it was very hot and humid but also suppose to rain. Also keep in mind that you must have all your bags with you at all times. Not fun to walk anywhere!
We went back to the Pax terminal and just decided we would get stuff from the vending machines until my friend got there. Well the problem with that is that it only took $1.00 bills and I had a bunch of $5s and no one would give me change. It was so frustrating. I asked the guy at the counter if there was any place to get change and he told me the bowling ally.
So we got all our stuff and headed there. Another 10-15 minute walk. We get to the bowling ally just in time for it to start pouring down rain. They had a little food place in there so I decided to feed us and just relax. After we ate we bowled a little bit. I think we spent about 3 hours there just killing time.
We made it back to the terminal at about 6ish and I was hoping my friend would be there soon. Well by 9 she still hadn’t showed. I was getting worried. I couldn’t get ahold of her at all. I didn’t know if I should go for a hotel or wait there. The boys were getting crazy and I had a major “why did I decide to do this crazy thing?”meltdown.
At about 10pm my friend finally made it. She had been in a minor car accident and that was why she was later than she had planned. It was so stressful for both of us that we decided to skip the first flight out they had the next day. That was probably our mistake but it was what we decided to do at the time.
We ended up having to stay the night in the terminal which was ok for the boys but I hardly slept at all. The next day we were able to get a hotel on post which was really a house. It was very nice. We all got to shower and rest a little bit.
Well what ended up happening was the flight we were trying to get out on kept getting cancelled and changed to the next day. It was suppose to leave on a Thursday and we finally left on the next Tuesday. This was so hard and why I would never do Space-A again with small kids. Just the waiting and wondering, having to find a hotel, not knowing if we were really going to fly each day. We would call each morning only to find out that the flight had been moved again. Thank goodness we were together. I don’t know what I would have done if I was without another adult.
We finally flew into Spangdahlem, Germany 6 days after I had arrived in Charleston. That was when it got even more frustrating for us. I will talk about that in the next post.
I was contacted by The United States Department of Veterans Affairs to post the steps to take to receive the Post 9/11 GI Bill Benefits.
When a military member uses their GI Bill benefits they can go back to school and it will allow them to find a job post-military life or will allow them to do more with their military career. There are a lot of benefits to going back to school and it is great that the GI bill is there to help those that have served their country get ahead. Some do not take advantage of these benefits but it is important to look into if you have them. They can be a way to get to where you want to go in your career. You can use them to get your AA or BA or even just go to technical school or complete a month long program in order to gain a skill that can help you find a new type of job.
1. Check your eligibility online at www.gibill.va.gov
2. Submit your application VA Form 22-1990 or 22-1990E.
3. After you have enrolled in school, check with your School Certifying Official (SCO) to confirm that your VA enrollment certification has been sent to the VA on your behalf. This form certifies your actual enrollment period and triggers your payment. *Here’s a little hint: the school’s designated SCO will be found in the Financial Aid Department, Admissions and Records Department, or Registrar’s Office.)
4. And last but not least, enjoy the education benefits you earned!
And here is the main website:
You can also send the text GIBill to 99702.
Make sure to double check on the website what you need to do. Sometimes things change or will be a little different and you always want to be aware of your military benefits so you can use them.
April is the Month of the Military child. These special boys and girls have different lives than children whose parents are in different careers. They see more, do more and experience more than anyone else. Some of these experiences are amazing like visiting other countries or getting to live in them. Other experiences are not as great such as going a year without seeing their dad or having to say goodbye to one more friend.
The military child lives a very special life. They start serving their country from day one. They have to say goodbye to daddy (or mommy) more times than a child should. They have to say goodbye to friends all the time. They have to be the new kid every 2-5 years. They usually don’t get to grow up around grandparents or cousins. Sometimes it can be years between seeing family. Daddy might have missed their birth, first steps, the first day of Kindergarten or high school graduation. And anything in-between. The children of the military are the little heroes.
They get to see the world and meet all types of different people. They get to experience so many different things. I can ask my oldest son if he remembers that time we walked on an airfield in Newfoundland at 3 in the morning. I can tell my 3 year old that he was born in Germany, across the ocean from the country we call home. I often wonder what kind of mom I would be if my husband never had to go away? I wonder what our family would be like? This lifestyle isn’t easy but it is ours. The good with the bad. All I can do is help my children through what they may have to face. And pray that daddy won’t have to deploy as often in the future.
I left for college in 1997 and email was very new. My dad hooked us up with Prodigy and then AOL when I was in high school but it wasn’t until I started college that most of my friends had email too. For the first few years, we still wrote handwritten letters to each other.
I loved that and I miss how we use to do that all the time. I had this box filled with stationery and I loved getting it out and writing my friends letters. Updating them on my life and what was going on.
By the time, I graduated college email was more the norm, and these days we mostly use email for business reasons or transactions, or to get promotions to our favorite or not-so-favorite stores and restaurants. As much as I love how easy it is to connect with pretty much anyone these days, I miss those handwritten letters.
Ideally, each deployment would be filled with handwritten love letters between my husband and me but it just didn’t happen that way with us this last deployment. Communication was actually a big issue between us and one I hope we can work out before he has to leave again. There is something special about getting a letter in the mail written in his handwriting knowing he touched the same paper I was reading. There is something magical about it all.
I do have to be thankful, though. Back when my Grandparents were going through WW2 all they had were handwritten notes. No chatting on Skype for them. No phone calls and no emails. They also didn’t even know when my Grandpa would be home. Can you imagine? What a different time we live in.
Do you write a lot of handwritten letters during deployment or do you depend more on email/Skype? Do you write handwritten letters to friends?
If you haven’t ever heard of Flickr…here is the site. www.flickr.com. It is a photo sharing community. There are a lot of people over there and a lot of different uses for Flickr. Some people just use it to store photos they want to share online. Others use it just for friends and family. Some professional photographers use it to show their work. So why do I use it? I use it to share my work & meet other photographers.
So basically, this is what I do. This afternoon I uploaded this photo…
Now I need to fill in information about it. I added the title, “Little Einstein in Egypt.” Then I added some tags. I just put in words that I thought had to do with the picture. Little Einstein, Egypt, bokeh, depth of field, canon50d, canon, Africa, Pyramids, giza, pyramids of giza,
After that I usually put something in the description. I try to include the location in either the tags and/or description so people know where it is. It is frustrating to view a photo of a lake and not even know what country it was taken in. You can also Geo-tag your photos in Flickr too.
Next, I pick some groups I want to send the photo too. They have groups on so many different topics. They probably have a group on any photo you could imagine you wanted to upload. I sent this picture to 3 groups… Egypt, Bokeh Wednesday & Visit the World- The Travel Guide. Sometimes I send it to more and sometimes just 1 group. I also tweet it to my Twitter.
I try to get to some of my contacts photos and maybe a few from my groups every day. I use Darckr to help me with that. When you view someone’s photo you can mark it as a favorite, comment and even leave a note on the photo. It is an easy way to interact with others, make new friends and get some photography inspiration.
On the Flickr home page you will also see a link that says Explore. This is where you can see the most “Interesting” photos for each day. It is a fun goal to try to get one of your photos in Explore. It is based on different things. How many comments you get, how many favorites you get and how quickly you get them. I have also heard it depends on who is leaving you the comments, how many groups you send it to and the types of groups you send it too.
In almost 2 years I have had 43 photos make it to Explore. I don’t really try to have them get there but I do get excited when they make it. I check if any of my pictures made it by going to http://bighugelabs.com/ and using Scout to see if any photos are in Explore. Photos go in and out of Explore all the time. Right now I have 7 that are currently there.
So I think I am going to wrap this up. Flickr can be a lot of fun! It is a great way to get your photos out there and let others see and comment on them. If you have any more questions about Flickr, I would be happy to answer them 🙂 Julie’s Flickr Photostream
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This is my Grandma Ruth. She was an Army wife too although for a shorter time. But it wasn’t easy. My grandparents got married and about 6 weeks later he went off to fight in World War 2. He didn’t get to come home for 3 years. No R&R, no email, no Yahoo. I just can’t even imagine what that would have been like. On the back of this photo, there is a stamp that says “Passed by the Army Examiner” So I can only guess she mailed him this photo while he was gone.
When I was about 13 years old she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease 🙁 She passed away when I was 24.
When I was a little girl I asked Grandma how long she would live. She told me she would live long enough to see me get married. I feel like she kept that promise in a way even though she wasn’t physically at the wedding. She died about 7 months after my wedding. She also met my husband which was so important to me. I have no idea if she even knew what was going on when he met her because by that point she really wasn’t there anymore at all. A part of me believes she could have known deep down that this was the man that was going to marry her Granddaughter and she just couldn’t show any response because of the disease.
She would be turning 90 this year. There are so many things I want to talk to her about. So many questions about being an Army wife during that war that I will never be able to ask.