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What You Need To Know About IEP Meetings

August 25, 2015 by Julie Leave a Comment

What You Need To Know About IEP Meetings

Thank you so much to Meg from MilKids Education Consulanting for this wondering guest post all about IEPS! As a special needs mom I have been to a lot of these types of meetings and they can feel so scary. There is a lot to know about them and this post gives any special needs parent a good idea about what to expect.

The elusive IEP, or individualized education program, is a tough beast to pin down. It comes in so many different forms, with literally infinite varieties. It looks different every single time, understandably it is a challenging thing to fully grasp.

Luckily, you have an expert IEP tracker on hand to tackle all of your questions and concerns.

First things first: what in the goodness is an IEP. Basically, it is a plan to help students who fall into one or more of 13 specific disability categories. That disability or disabilities also has to adversely affect that student’s academic progress. This plan specifies what kinds of services, like OT, PT or speech, the student qualifies for and what kind of academic program would be best.

The academic program explains where the student will be taught certain subjects: in the regular class with or without modifications, in the regular class with an aide, or in a separate smaller group with a special education teacher. A student could receive instruction in any or all of these places.

So, now that that’s out of the way. Let’s get to the nitty gritty, from a teacher’s point of view.

I want to help your child. I want to help him get the broadest, best education possible. But that education is different for every single kid. Might some kids go to Ivy League colleges and be elected president after receiving special education services? Sure. Might other kids have the goal of learning to dress themselves or use the bathroom appropriately? You bet. Most students in the special education system will fall somewhere in the middle.

Part of the process of special education is getting real with yourself and your expectations for your child. This will be hard. I understand. We all want our kiddos to achieve at the highest level, graduate from college, get married, have an awesome job, and raise a family. Unfortunately, for many severely disabled children this might not always be possible. It is a challenge to let go of those dreams, and create new ones. I once had a parent of a severely autistic student, who needed help bathrooming in the third grade and was working below a first grade level, ask me if I thought he might be a good candidate for a college that specialized in educating students with specific learning disabilities. That kind of disconnect between what your child is actually doing and capable of, and what you wish they were able to do, is extremely dangerous mentally, emotionally, and to your role as a parent.

Once we are all on the same page in terms of the child’s ability and reasonable expectations, we can proceed to the discussion of services, modifications, and accommodations. Let me be clear, these services are not intended to fix your child or to magically make your child excel at something that is currently hard. They are designed to help your child grow, to achieve at her highest level possible. This won’t happen overnight, or maybe ever. An accommodation or modification doesn’t mean the work is easier or graded differently. It means that the work has been adjusted to best meet your child at her educational ability right now.

One of the big things that we hear in IEP meetings is homework. Homework does not stop because of an IEP. It might be shortened. It might be different than the rest of his peers. It might even happen every other night. But there will be homework as determined by the teaching team, in consult with the special service providers.

The other thing we hear a lot is about specifics. Lots of IEPs are worded vaguely. They have to be. Teachers need to be able to adjust education tactics mid-year, while still progressing toward a specific goal. For example: Using a teacher created tool to monitor work progress, Johnny will complete 75% of his assignments in a given grading period on time. The quantitative part at the end is pretty specific: 75% of assignments must be on time.

The teacher created tool is where a lot of people get hung up. Many parents, and teacher, want a specific tool to be written down. Like this: Using a work assignment checklist (see attached), Johnny will complete 75% of his assignments in a given grading period on time. But this way would be a disservice to the child and the teacher. Let’s say that right now, X method is working to get Johnny to finish his work. But in a month, he’s no longer responding to this. If it is written into the IEP, it cannot change.

Let me repeat: IF IT IS WRITTEN INTO THE IEP, IT CANNOT CHANGE.

Not without a meeting to discuss new findings, rewrite that particular goal, and assess how other goals might be affected. That’s a lot of hassle over wording. In other words, let the teachers have the freedom of flexibility to change the program while still meeting the goal.

Let’s look at it this way: what if you had to create a nutrition plan that would last you all year. In order to change that plan, you needed to convene a meeting with your doctor, nutritionist, personal trainer, and the head of your doctor’s practice. In September, you really like mangoes. So you wrote them specifically into your plan: will eat 3 mangoes each day. But in December, you got really sick of them. If they are written into your food plan, you must eat them. How much better would it have been if you wrote: will eat 5-6 fruits or veggies each day. Now, you are working toward the same goal (eating healthy fruits and veggies) while still allowing yourself to be flexible in what you are consuming.

Once everyone agrees on everything, or agrees enough that the document can be signed, the meeting is over and the IEP is “live.” That means from this day until one calendar year from now, this is the IEP that rules the roost. It dictates everything about your child’s day in school: who he sees for the core subjects, what special services he is receiving and how often he gets these services, testing modifications or accommodations, and his academic placement (inclusion, general education, or substantially separate).

Now, you need to monitor to make sure that all of these things are happening correctly all of the time. Might a few slips happen? Of course! Teacher are, believe it or not, human. We get sick, have a meeting that can’t be rescheduled, or need to swap a schedule around sometimes. But if your child’s services are being provided correctly the majority of the time, that’s great!

As a parent, monitoring what is going on with your kid in school is super important.

You need to know. Here’s the dirty secret schools won’t tell you: they are routinely understaffed or staffed to just meet the needs of their kids.

Paraprofessionals have ultra tight schedules. They work with Child 5 from X-Y, then move to classroom 123 from Y-Z. They rarely get breaks, they juggle different grades, different children, different schedules. I know. I did this. It is hard. And they are paid unbelievably poorly. Schools hire just enough to cover the students that absolutely MUST have an aide, with very little wiggle room.

Special service providers, like PT, OT, and Speech, also have very tight schedules. They must see a large caseload of children with all different disabilities over the course of a 40 hours week. All of the children have a different number of hours that must be provided, and many see more than one specialist. It is common to see OT and PT on many IEPs since they often teach similar skills. In addition to all of that time, students must still receive core instruction, go to their PE and arts teachers, and eat lunch.

Schools do not hire extra PTs, OTs, SLPs, or paras. They hire just enough to meet their needs based on the data from the prior year and the students who enroll over the summer. What does this mean for you? Scary things.

Let’s say that your child has previously been able to keep up with the work, but this year is completely unable to do so. He’s in a class without a para or a co-teacher. Even if the special education teacher and the general education teacher agree that this is a child who would benefit from an aide, he probably won’t be getting one.

If at any point you feel that your child’s needs aren’t being met, or the learning environment is no longer appropriate, you can request a meeting to discuss outplacement. Outplacement is when the school district pays for your child to be educated in a private school that specializes in what your child needs. This happens ONLY when the least restrictive placement cannot be provided by the school system. Sometimes, schools might bring this up, especially if a child is a danger to himself or others on a very regular basis. The most important thing to remember is that a school cannot place your child anywhere without your consent, and your consent may be withdrawn at any time.

So, after all of that, I hope that IEPs are somewhat more clear. There are a lot of parts to the federal and state laws that govern special education. There are exceptions and loopholes, and there are many, many pages of forms that are required to be filled out and steps to be followed before we arrive at a completed IEP.

Even with all of that, it is worth it. It is worth the fight by parents and teachers of children to ensure that each and every child is getting the education he or she richly deserves.

Meg FlanaganMeg Flanagan is a special and elementary education teacher who holds an M.Ed in special education and a BS in elementary education. In addition to classroom experience, she has also worked in private tutoring and home schools. Meg is passionate about education advocacy for all children, but especially for children with special needs and children of military and state department personnel. You can find Meg online at MilKids Education Consulting, as well as on Facebook and Twitter.

Filed Under: Special Needs Tagged With: military children, Special needs

Where Should My Kids Sleep?

August 24, 2015 by Julie 2 Comments

Where Should My Kids Sleep?

 

We moved into our current home four years ago. At the time we had a 6-year-old, 4-year-old and 9 month old. All boys. Our house is set up so our Master bedroom is downstairs. I love this because it really gives us some space. It wasn’t until we moved in here I was okay with that. We had a similar set up in our last house in Germany and we decided to put our room on the same floor with the boys. It is funny how your wants can change just by adding another child to the mix.

Before we moved in we decided to paint most of the rooms. This was a lot of fun! We even had the boys help.

We put my oldest two in the same room and then the baby had his own room, the smallest of the three upstairs. The third bedroom up there would be the office. This set up worked for a while since I had two older kids and a baby. Then the baby got a bit older and we decided to put him in with my oldest son giving our middle son his own room. At the time it made sense. He is the one with Asperger’s and he needed his space. About a year later we switched it up again because my son was asking if he could share a room with someone again. We changed things up even more putting the office into the small room and turning the former office into my oldest son’s room. This allowed my middle son to have a roommate and gave my oldest some space.

That worked for about a year and then my middle son was talking about how he wanted some space again. So I thought about it and we put my oldest and youngest together again. That is where they are now.

The issue is now my 8-year-old wants to be with one of his brothers again so we have some choices to make. We could put all three boys in one room but that is a little crazy. We could give the 4-year-old his own room, my other two had their own rooms at some point around that age. We could put the 8-year-old with the 4-year-old and give my 10-year-old his own room again but the 8 and 4-year-old don’t get along as well. We are really going to have to think about this.

So how do you decide where your kids are going to sleep?

There is a lot to think about. For my parents it was pretty easy. They just had a boy and a girl. For others it gets a little more complicated. The great thing is that you can be flexible and change things around as needed. You can get creative, making space for kids in other rooms. If your kids are older you can talk to them about what they would want and who they would want to room with.

How have you set up the rooms in your house? Has it been a challenge to figure out what the best way to do things would be? Head on over to Hello Mamas and find other moms to talk to about this or any other issues your family might be having.

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Filed Under: Motherhood Tagged With: motherhood

What To Do When Your Spouse Wants To Join The Military

August 20, 2015 by Julie 20 Comments

What To Do When Your Spouse Wants To Join The Military

Sometimes life doesn’t go the way you think it might and before you know it your spouse is talking to you about wanting to join the military. If you are like me, this wasn’t apart of the plan when you married your husband. Joining the military wasn’t something in your five-year plan.

However, life is funny sometimes and you can end up doing things you never thought you would. You can end up doing things you never even dreamed of doing. You can end up in places you could never have imagined going to.

My husband and I had been married for three years when he joined the Army at age 30. He had been in before when he was a lot younger before I met him. When we got married, I didn’t think that the Army would be in our future.

The Army was in his past, and that is where the military was going to stay.

We made a few decisions, and after a few years, we found ourselves questioning if he should go back in. At first, we thought about the Army Reserves. We met with a recruiter and found out that for his MOS, he would have to travel about three hours to get to drill each month. That was in May of 2005, and I came home from that feeling like joining the Reserves wasn’t the right thing to do.

Then my husband started getting health benefits from his current job, and they were horrible. It just wasn’t working. By August we had decided to look into what goes into Active Duty would mean.

We met with a different recruiter, and everything just felt right. I wanted him to wait until November of that year since a friend was getting married and I wanted to go to the wedding. We should have waited until AFTER the holiday season.

If you are thinking of joining the Military in the fall, wait until after New Years’. That way, you at least have that last holiday together and can start the new year with a new journey. Instead of them possibly missing the holidays right after they join.

The Military will make being together for holidays hard enough, give yourself one more holiday season before that can happen. I wish we would have known that going in.

My husband didn’t have to go through Basic again which we didn’t know at first. I dropped him off one day in November, and he was in Germany two weeks later. It took us almost five months to join him which was a big wake up call about how the Military can work sometimes.

If you are married and your spouse expresses interest in joining the Military, there are a few things you should do:

Make sure you are on the same page

My husband didn’t join until I was ready. If he had joined before I was ready, our marriage would have suffered. Talk the decision over.

Even if your first thought is “No way!” Talk it over and see what you both think. There are also a lot of options when it comes to joining the military. They can go active duty, National Guard, or Reserves.

Ask questions

There is a lot of information out there about Military life these days. There is no reason why you can’t get online and get a sense of what this life will be like. We Milspouse bloggers like to talk about it 🙂

Feel free to ask us or any friends who are military spouses questions. There is a lot to be worried about before joining the military and hearing about what others do to get through the difficulties of military life is a good idea.

Know it will be difficult

You can’t have your spouse join the military thinking you will somehow get a smooth Military ride. Plan for how hard this life is going to be. Realize you will be without them sometimes.

Solo parenting will become apart of your life. Understand that many spouses do this and you can too if the Military is something your spouse wants to do.

Know it doesn’t have to be forever

You only sign up for 3-4 years of Active duty at a time. They can get out after that. If military life doesn’t work out, go and do something else. Especially if you are young.

There is a lot you can do with your life. Take it one enlistment at a time if you have to. Signing up for 20 years at a time isn’t apart of the requirements to join the military.

Know there is support

Us spouses have to stick together because Military life is hard. You will not be alone. There are resources out there for you and your family.

You can connect with others. You won’t be the only one going through whatever it is Military life will bring you through.

Not everyone will agree with the decision

You might have people who care about you who don’t agree. You have to understand that joining the Military can be a scary choice for them. Give them time and explain why you two are making this decision. Most people will get that and if they don’t, you might have to keep your distance for a while.

The decision on if your spouse should join the Military or not is a complicated one. Don’t take this decision lightly and think about what joining means before anyone signs any papers.

Make sure you are on the same page about the decision and look for resources to help Military spouses. They are out there. Try not to be afraid. Ask questions.

If your spouse does decide to join the military, know that your life will change. This can be a scary thought but the change can be a good one. You will be able to meet people you would never have, you will be able to do things you never thought you would, and through everything, you will become a stronger person as you stand by and support your spouse on their next adventure.

Did your spouse join the Military after you were married?

Don’t forget to check out The Newbie’s Guide to Military Life: Surviving a PCS and More by Soldier’s Wife, Crazy Life and Mrs Navy Mama. Your guide for learning about military life.

Filed Under: Military Life Tagged With: join the military, military life, military spouse

On Being Stationed At Fort Carson, Colorado

August 17, 2015 by Julie 10 Comments

On Being Stationed At Fort Carson
Happy to have this guest post by Janna on Ft. Carson, Colorado. Please visit my Duty station guest post page for posts on other locations or more information about how you can write a guest post about where you have been stationed. 

Hello everyone! I’m Janna from Perception Is Everything where you will find my attempt at finding some normalcy while living the military life. Mostly I talk about everyday things, my soldier, our newborn, and a little bit about my interest in health and nutrition every now and then, so basically…it’s your typical ‘lifestyle’ blog. I’m actually from a military town {Pensacola, FL}, moved to South Florida because I swore that I would never marry a military guy,  and yet now I wouldn’t trade it for anything. If you have any questions about NAS, Whiting Field, Eglin AFB, Fort Gordon, or Fort Rucker, I can help with those as well, and if you have any information on Fort Bragg, please pass it my way (jannabogert@yahoo.com),because that is where we are headed this Fall!

For today, I’m happy to share my experience from Fort Carson, Colorado with you. We knew how lucky we were when we received orders for Fort Carson as our first duty station, but it was still more incredible than we could have ever imagined. We were there for a little over three years and I cherish every moment! I could go on and on for days, but considering this is a guest post, I’ll try to hit the important topics.

First things first, Where To Live:

This can be daunting since not only is Fort Carson huge, the town of Colorado Springs is EVEN bigger. The housing on post varies from old townhomes (nice on the inside, but leaves something to be desired on the outside) up to very nice new homes. I believe the old townhomes are reserved for those without dependents other than S/O, though, and from what I understand the schools are pretty great. However, as with living off post, you have to consider where your spouse is working. My husband worked at the Wilderness Complex on the South end of Colorado. We lived in Fountain, CO, so it only took him fifteen minutes to get to work through the back gate, whereas his buddy lived on the North end of post and it took him up to thirty minutes to get to work driving through post, and even worse, a friend that lived off Powers North had almost an hour commute each way. So basically, you can live anywhere you want in Colorado Springs as long as you avoid Academy Blvd and parts of downtown, but make sure you know where the soldier will be working to estimate the commute before committing. Also, it’s a little known fact that you can live on Peterson AFB, so keep that in mind as well! Oh, and one more important note…some of the older houses around town do not have air conditioning. We chose a house based on ridiculously low rent and SURPRISE…no AC. However, it was a blessing in disguise, because we had ridiculously low utilities and a small window unit was enough to get us through the Colorado summers.

About The Area:
There are FIVE Military Installations in Colorado Springs, so it is a very transient town.  The good news is that this also lends to a lot of support from the community.  There are always “Welcome Home Soldiers” signs everywhere, the news is flooded with support of our soldiers, and we also get some pretty good discounts 😉 Summer is FULL of festivals and Farmer’s Markets. We attended Territory Days, Wild West Festival, and every Farmer’s Market I could find.  There are also many music festivals, a Renaissance Festival, and there’s a little town at the foot of Pike’s Peak called Manitou Springs that has shenanigans going on all the time. You could hike every weekend and still not cover the trails, and in winter you can sled, tube, snowshoe, ski and snowboard to continue the outdoor life. Fort Carson MWR even makes all of the activities affordable by offering discounts, trips, and adventures year around.
Favorite Activities:

Pike’s Peak Drive or ride the Cog Railway up to the top for amazing views and specialty donuts that can only be made at 14,000 feet!

Visit the Cheyenne Mountain Zoo, which happens to be the only zoo located on a Mountain in the world! The views are incredible and the experience is awesome!
Breckenridge, Colorado was our favorite ski town. It was fun, laid back, family friendly but always a party, and budget friendly compared to others.
It’s hard to find water sources around the Springs, but head down to the Pueblo Reservoir to cool off. You can hang out on the beach, rent boats, ski/wakeboard, camp, and take in a desert paradise. It’s totally worth the 45 minute drive.

Favorite Restaurants:
Blue Star
Edelweiss
Jake and Telly’s Greek Taverna
The Famous
Jack Quinn’s Pub
Mona Lisa Fondue
Hacienda
Phantom Canyon Brewing Company
Old Chicago
The Broadmoor For Brunch 

 Obviously, I could talk about this state for DAYS, but I can’t hijack Julie’s blog. I just hope that this can help anyone with the fortune of getting stationed here, and I hope it eases anyone’s mind that might be apprehensive of the cold or being landlocked. Other than having to get used to the altitude (Colorado Springs is at 6,000 feet), possibly living without AC, driving in snow, and inevitably having to drive through the mountains (still scares me), it is a mountain paradise. Enjoy all the seasons, and even on the days when a blizzard comes, remember that it will probably melt in a day or two because Colorado has over 300 days of sun a year. Thanks for reading!

Filed Under: Military Life Tagged With: duty station

Why I Had An Epidural After Two Natural Births

August 14, 2015 by Julie 10 Comments

Why I Had An Epidural After Two Natural Births

A few months ago I wrote all about my natural births. How it was very important for me to go natural and how that worked out. However, for baby #3 I did not go natural. I decided to have an epidural and I wanted to explain why. I will say that birth choices should be made by each mother. Not by the doctor, midwife or anyone else. If you want to go natural, you should. Don’t let anyone tell you it is too hard. If you want an epidural, get one. Don’t let anyone tell you that it is not the best choice for you.

When I got pregnant with my third child, I was tired. Yes, I know all pregnant women are tried, but I felt more tired with this pregnancy. I was older. The older you have a baby the more tired you will feel. I also think that you can only really tell this if you have a baby at different ages. So if you are having your first child in your 30s you are not going to be to be able to tell as much as someone having their 3rd or 4th at that age. I could be wrong but that is my theory and I am sticking with it.

I was 25 with my first, 27 with my 2nd and was now 31 with my third. I could feel it. My best friend also had her last baby at 31 and she said she felt the exact same way. That it was a lot more tiring. It could also have had to do with the fact that we had other children running around that we had to take care of too.

I found out I was pregnant with my son in March of 2010, right after we moved back to the United States from Germany. As the pregnancy went on, we started hearing about a deployment. However, we were told my husband would not have to go until at least January, a few months after the baby was born. He had stop loss until November even though the Unit was leaving in August. I was due December 1st.

Then around the time I was about 7-8 months pregnant they started telling us that he would have to go the last week of November. Maybe. I started freaking out a bit. What if he had to go and that night I went into labor, would they send him back? What if I had the baby two days before he was supposed to go, would they let him stay? Who could I have with me just in case he wasn’t there? Although I had given birth before without my husband, I didn’t want to do it again.

So all of this lead into my decision to not be so into natural childbirth. It wasn’t that I didn’t care. It wasn’t that I didn’t think that was a good choice anymore. I just was tired and couldn’t think about how I could really do it this time, especially if my husband was not there. I needed him. During our 1st birth he was my rock. I just didn’t think I could do it again without him.

So I did what I always told others not to do. I was going to wait until we got to the hospital to decide on the epidural. Now, if you truly want a natural birth, if that is important to you, you can not wait until you go into labor. You have to prepare ahead of time. With exercises and with your mind. You have to decide that natural is how you are going to give birth unless there is a medical reason not to. You have to understand that if you give birth in an American hospital, you will be asked if you want drugs. You have to prepare for that. You can’t just decide when you get there. Because if you haven’t made that decision yet, you will ask for those drugs.

I knew all of this. I knew it well and at the time, I didn’t care anymore. I really just wanted to have a baby.

So in the end the Army was nice to us and pushed my husband’s deployment off. He ended up leaving in February when our son was a few months old.

One night, a couple of weeks before I was due, I went into labor at 3:30 in the morning. My friend came over to stay with our other boys, we headed to the hospital at Ft. Campbell, BACH and by the time we had checked it, it was about 4:30.  I was in a room where they were making sure I was actually in labor and how far I was. I was at a 4 and they asked if I wanted an epidural. I said “yes” and that I never had one before. They couldn’t really believe why I had not had one before. I kinda had to roll my eyes because I never regretted having natural births. But this birth was different and for this one I wanted an epidural.

My son was born around 6:15am. He came fast. We went to the birthing room, they gave me the epidural and then he was born. They tell me the epidural didn’t have time to work. Trust me, it did. Having gone through the ring of fire before, trust me, it did something.

My little red-head came out so fast I didn’t even know what was happening. It was quite the experience.

I am 99.9% sure I will never have another baby the rest of my days. However, if I did, I am not sure what I would do. I go super fast. Each birth was faster than the other. So I think I would consider a home birth. Who knows? I am glad I experienced the epidural. I am good with that choice. I want the same for every woman. I don’t want anyone to feel they should do something they don’t want to do. Birth choices are so important.

How did you birth your babies? Would you do things differently if you could go back and do it all again?

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On Living in Wiesbaden, Germany

August 11, 2015 by Julie 7 Comments

On Living in Wiesbaden, Germany

Happy to have this guest post by Rebecca on Wiesbaden, Germany. Please visit my Duty station guest post page for posts on other locations or more information about how you can write a guest post about where you have been stationed. 

I had the privilege of living in Wiesbaden, Germany from January 2008 through December 2010. This was my first experience living overseas and it was an adventure! Back in those days, military and their family flew on commercial flights, which landed us in Frankfurt. We were then bussed to an inprocessing center and then finally bussed to Wiesbaden Army Airfield. At that point we were escorted to a downtown hotel and I could, finally, sleep.

On Living in Wiesbaden, Germany

Now, families fly into Ramstein Air Force Base, about 90 minutes from Wiesbaden and they are housed in a nice, new hotel, conveniently located close to the commissary, PX, and housing. While it is nice that families with school-aged kids are close enough for their children to walk to school immediately upon arrival, we really enjoyed the hotel that was downtown. It gave us an opportunity to explore, walk around our new city, and, upon our departure, visit the Christmas Market each evening.

Housing in Wiesbaden was 90% stairwell apartments. We lived in a new two-bedroom, one bathroom third floor walk-up. Contrary to the stories my mother-in-law shared about her Berlin apartment building, we had government provided washers and dryers in each apartment, so I did not have to descend to the basement to do laundry.

On Living in Wiesbaden, Germany

I loved our apartment. I loved that we were on the 3rd floor and heard no one above us. I loved that there were only 3 families in the stairwell and no one ever walked past our door or came up to the 3rd floor unless they were coming to visit us. I loved our neighbors. This was the apartment where our house because a home. Where we bought our bedroom set, first couch, and more importantly, where we brought our children home for the first time.

I was pregnant when we arrived in Germany, and when we left, I had two kids. In Wiesbaden, all prenatal care is handled by off-post, civilian providers. I had excellent care and delivered both of my children at St. Joseph’s Hospital, just a mile or so from housing. For everything else we saw providers on post and had no problems with any of the medical care. My children used the CDCs on post, both for full time care and hourly care and we were always impressed with the quality of the providers there.

As seems to be our luck, there was a lot of construction going on during our time. Improvements were made to housing, the commissary, the PX and that resulted in some frustrating times. However, those improvements have been well received. Wiesbaden has grown tremendously in the past few years, and with all those people, these changes were necessary. I just wish we’d been able to enjoy them.

On Living in Wiesbaden, Germany

We were, incorrectly, told we would not need a car in Germany. Wrong! We ended up purchasing one there, that we shipped back with us. And we bought a second car, for my husband to use to get back and forth to work. Most people buy and sell the second car around PCS season, so it is easy to find something affordable and quick. You absolutely need at least one car, as most housing is not on the airfield.

We travelled as much as we could. With four deployments, one long TDY, and a high op-tempo, my husband didn’t have the time to travel. With two pregnancies resulting in two kids under 2, I didn’t have the energy. And with the exchange rate not in our favor, we had to budget accordingly. I was strongly encouraged by friends to save the COLA for travels and to not get used to living off of it. This was, and continues to be, good advice.

I did a lot of day trips with the Spouses’ Club, and we became very familiar with both Wiesbaden and Mainz, the university town across the river. We weren’t afraid to get out and explore. I got my license quickly after arriving and drove around a lot. It’s not as intimidating as some think. We really enjoyed the local scene and felt at home in the town.

We took a few bigger trips; Koln, Berlin, Portugal, Italy, and Munich. Berlin we did by train, which was so much fun. That trip was arranged for us by the travel agency on post. We drove to Koln for an overnight. We flew to Portugal for a four-day weekend and explored as much as possible. We took a longer trip to Nuremburg and Munich when family came to town. There were tons of USO trips, both day and weekend available, but with two little ones, we just couldn’t imagine those long days being fun. We did venture to Garmisch for a marriage retreat and I was so grateful to see Bavaria that summer.

Europe, like any duty station, is what you make of it. We did the most we could with the time and finances and kids. We made some of the best friends we could ever have. We grew into a fantastic family there. And we’d love to go back. We know it would be different, but we also know what fun we will have. I hope, that if Europe is ever an option for you, you embrace it head on.

 

mountainsRebecca Alwine has been a military spouse for over 8 years, traveling the world and learning about herself. She’s discovered she enjoys running, loves lifting weights, is a voracious reader, and actually enjoys most of the menial tasks of motherhood. She is an avid volunteer, most recently as President of the Fort Huachuca Community Spouses’ Club and has worked as a career counselor for transitioning service members. She has a Masters in Emergency Management from American Military University and a Bachelor of Arts in Geography from the University of Mary Washington. Her writing has been published both in AUSA’s ARMY Magazine, Military Spouse Magazine, on Many Kind Regards, and multiple digital magazines and blogs. You can follow her on Twitter and on Facebook.

Filed Under: Military Life, Stationed in Germany, Stationed Overseas Tagged With: duty station, germany, guest post, stationed in germany

Why Bloggers Need Social Media

August 10, 2015 by Julie Leave a Comment

Why Bloggers Need Social Media

Bloggers need social media! Are you a blogger too? Awesome! Are you on social media? You should be. For a few different reasons. Social media can be good, it can be bad but you need to be on it if you are a blogger.

There are three main reasons for this. To connect, to promote and to make money. Yes, you can make money on social media if you are a blogger. Pretty cool huh?

To Connect

This is the most important reason that bloggers need social media. To connect with others. To connect with other bloggers and to connect with your readers or possible readers. You will do this in different ways depending on the platform. On Twitter, you will set up your account and start following people. Then start replying to what they are talking about. Start retweeting what you like and your numbers will start to grow. On Facebook, start a Facebook page for your blog, connect with other bloggers to gain followers, share with all of your friends and put the page on your blog. There are many ways to connect with others on social media. Just keep doing it. Not only will you make friends but you will help get your blogging name out there.

To Promote

Social media is great for bloggers because it is an easy and free way to promote your blog. Although you can pay for some of it, you don’t have to. You can just put it out there for the world to see. Make sure you have a strategy of some kind. Some people like the posts to automatically end up on social media. Others would rather have control over that. You might need to try a few things before you figure out how you want to do it. Use tools like Buffer and Hootsuite to help you schedule your posts. Don’t forget to go back into your social media accounts in real time. Your followers want to know you are a real person and that you are really there, even if some of your posts are scheduled.

To Make Money

Once you start to get a good following on social media, you can actually make money with it. I do this in a few different ways. People can buy Twitter mentions from me from my blog. I also get offers from Izea, Sverve and Advowire. Each of these sites operate a little differently.

  • Izea– Here you connect your social media channels and then check for offers. Some might be for your blog or Instagram, most of them for me have been for Twitter. You bid a certain amount and have to wait to see if you will be accepted by the company. Sometimes you are and then it allows you to write your tweet right there on the website. Then it will be Tweeted out after it is approved. Other times you won’t hear anything so either they didn’t pick you or they dropped the campaign. It is hard to really know. It is a good idea to pay for one of the plans. The cheapest is only $1 a month and it will allow you to bid on a lot more campaigns.
  • Sverve– This is more of a blogging community where people share their posts but they also have campaigns. They have them for blogging, Twitter and Youtube but I have only done blog campaigns as well as Twitter ones. The pay is a lot lower than you will find on Izea but you can Tweet the campaign once every 24 hours until the campaign ends.
  • Advowire– I like this place because they always have something you can Tweet out. They give you points and then you turn in the points for prizes. I like to get the movie tickets because we love going to movies and will always use them. You can move up and get paid a little more, the more tweeting that you do. You can only use this every 12 hours but I try to go there at least once a day.

I am also able to do Facebook or Twitter campaigns through Blogher and MSB New Media. If you are a Military Spouse Blogger you must join their network.

As a blogger, there are a lot of tasks I do on a regular basis. Social media is one of them. It is the best way to get your name out there while connecting with others. And let’s face it, in most cases you would be on social media anyway, why not make it work for your blog too?

What is your favorite thing about social media as a blogger?

 

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Filed Under: Blogging Tagged With: blogging

Back To School With Special Needs

August 5, 2015 by Julie 2 Comments

Back To School With Special Needs

Back To School With Special Needs

Summer is almost over for us. The boys go back to school next week. My son with Asperger’s is going to start 3rd grade! I find that a little hard to believe. It seems like we were just getting ready for him to start kindergarten. What a nervous mom I was that summer. We were working with our ABA therapists to get him ready for school. He had been in preschool but kindergarten was something else. We were able to get a schedule of what his school day would like ahead of time and went over it with him.

He started school and that year was challenging. He started 1st grade and that was another challenging year. The summer before 1st and 2nd he really matured a lot. He was not the same kid when he went back to school. 2nd grade was a lot better but still had its challenges. We went from having to worry about him acting out to worrying about getting him to do his work. That was a big change because it involved two different things. He was not acting out as much which was great but he was refusing to do some of his work. It wasn’t that he couldn’t do it, but he is a bit of a perfectionist, so if he didn’t feel like he was doing it 100%, he would freak out and not want to do it at all.

We are working with a good team at his school. A few of them have known my son since he started at the school. It is one reason we are still in Tennessee. I worry that when we move, we will have to start over a bit and that scares me. Right now it is working and I don’t want to mess with that at the moment. Although I do know that there are plenty of resources for kids with Autism where we are planning to move to.

As we get ready for third grade I am feeling pretty positive about it. I have seen him mature a bit over the summer. He is no longer acting out just because someone does something he doesn’t like. He still does this sometimes but not like he did. I can tell he is really working on that. He is being more helpful around the house too. Things just seem a little more calm which is good.

So as we look into starting third grade with Asperger’s, I am excited about the year. However, I know there will still be challenges. He might not want to do all his work, and we will have to find a way to make sure he does and starts to understand that he needs to get it done. He might not get along with everyone in his class. He might wake up one morning and decide he does not want to go to school that day. I am trying to prepare myself for however the year is going to go.

Having a child with Asperger’s is challenging in so many ways. But we just have to work through them. I am glad I have a good team of people we are working with to help my son have a good year. It will be challenging at times, we will have a lot of IEP meetings and there will be a lot of tears on my part I am sure. But it will all be worth it so that my son can get a good education and can learn about how to do well in school.

Do you have a special needs child getting ready to go back to school? What are your biggest fears about it?

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My name is Julie and I first became a military spouse in 2005 when my husband of 3 years re-joined the Army. Then, in 2014, he joined the National Guard. In January of 2024, he retired from the National Guard after 21 years of service.

During our time in the military, we got to spend 4 years in Germany as well as Tennessee where we now call home.

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