To the Gold Star Spouse…

Gold Star Spouse

I see you. I see you sitting there, trying to hold it all together. I see you, wondering how you are sitting where you are. Wondering how this could be your new normal. Your pain is probably indecribable right now. You lost him, and one of your worst fears came true. And now you are here, ready for the ceremony to begin. Your children are by your side, they are too young to understand, or maybe they are not too you? Maybe they will remember this day, the day to honor their daddy. You start to think about what you …

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The First Night After the Deployment is Over

You have waited for months and months, and the day is finally here. Homecoming… The deployment is over, and you will get your spouse back, after so much time apart. If you have never been through a deployment or homecoming before, you might be asking yourself how that first night will go, after the deployment is over. For months now, you have joked with your friends about how that will be, and how exciting having your spouse back in your arms again will feel. You have some idea of how things will go, but you still might not really be …

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Top 10 Blog Posts of 2018

Can you believe this is the last day of the year? 2019…here we come. It’s been an interesting year for me. I started school, have taken on a lot more freelance writing work, and of course, seen my boys grow a little older. We had a big trip to California and have enjoyed another year here in the Fort Campbell area. And as always, I have continued to blog. As I look at my stats for 2018, here are the top 10 blog posts of 2018, from Soldier’s Wife, Crazy Life… 10. 10 Memes for the Military Spouse With Children- …

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Twas the Night Before Christmas…Milspouse Style

Twas the night before Christmas, and all through the house, no one was stirring, except one military spouse. She knew what tonight was, but wasn’t feeling the cheer, her husband of 12 years was simply not here. He was serving his country, on deployment #4, she simply couldn’t wait until April, when he would walk through the door. Her kids were in bed, excited for morning, they didn’t want to go, despite her stern warning. She looked at a picture, taken last year, when he was home beside her and she didn’t have much to fear. But this year was …

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The Best Ways to Celebrate Your Marriage From Across the Miles

The Best Ways to Celebrate Your Marriage From Across the Miles

The Best Ways to Celebrate Your Marriage From Across the Miles It was our 5th anniversary. I woke up that morning and something was different, something was off. We had spent our 1st anniversary on a weekend getaway, our 2nd, 3rd and 4th anniversary, we had a nice dinner together. But this was number 5. That’s a big deal when you are newly married. 5 years is longer than high school or college and gives you enough time to look back on where you have been. But this anniversary was going to be different. He was deployed. He was in …

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When the Holidays Don’t Feel Like the Holidays

When the Holidays Don’t Feel Like the Holidays The holidays are here, and with this season comes decorating for Christmas, Hanukkah, or whatever holiday you celebrate. This season means parties, and gift wrapping and baking yummy holiday treats. This season means being together with family, and being thankful for everything in your life. But what do you do when your spouse is deployed? When they are off in Iraq, Afghanistan, Africa, or some other part of the world too many miles from where you are? What do you do when you just don’t feel like doing Christmas? When you just …

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Surviving A Military Deployment

Surviving A Military Deployment

Surviving A Military Deployment I am sitting in my living room, in our 3rd-floor stairwell apartment in Schweinfurt, Germany. We just got back from the park, and my two-year-old is finally asleep. I am nursing my baby to sleep and will put him down in a bit. I plan to take a well-needed bubble bath once I do. It’s been a day. It’s been a week. It’s been a rough deployment.   And we still have so much more time to go…   Way too many days…way too long. And while every day is a day closer, the time ahead …

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10 Thoughts That Go Through Your Head During Thanksgiving

10 Thoughts That Go Through Your Head During Thanksgiving

10 Thoughts That Go Through Your Head During Thanksgiving Raise your hand if you are completely ready for Thanksgiving? Well, you better be, the day is coming up very soon. As a parent, you probably have a list of 100 things you have to do before the big day, or maybe, you are keeping things rather simple this year? Either way, Thanksgiving weekend can be interesting. Here are 10 thoughts that might go through your head during Thanksgiving:  “I hope I don’t forget anything!” via GIPHY If you are traveling during Thanksgiving, packing can be stressful! Will you remember everything? What if …

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How to Get Through a Deployment With Toddlers

How to Get Through a Deployment With Toddlers

How to Get Through a Deployment With Toddlers Deployment #2, my husband left, and it was just me, my two-year-old, and my four-year-old. A deployment with two toddlers. If you have ever had a toddler, you know how much work they can be. Toddlers are a handful, even the easy ones. And here I was home with two of them, with my husband too many miles away. I was a SAHM and didn’t have a spouse coming home at the end of the day. I didn’t have a spouse who could watch the kids for 15 minutes so that I …

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When You Are Living a Military Life

When You Are Living a Military Life

When You Are Living a Military Life I have lived in a military community ever since I got off the airplane in Germany back in 2006. I have been through seasons of deployment after deployment. I have watched my friends go through this too. I have gone through a few PCS moves myself, I can’t even count how many people I know going through one this year. A military life can be so different than a civilian one. I have learned this over the years, both from personal experience and the experiences of other military spouses I have known. The …

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