Indivisible With Sarah Drew and Justin Bruening

Indivisible With Sarah Drew and Justin Bruening

A few weeks ago I was able to screen a copy of the new movie Indivisible, starring Sarah Drew and Justin Bruening. This movie is a story about a military chaplain, his family, his marriage, his deployment, and his faith. INDIVISIBLE is based on the extraordinary true story of Army Chaplain Darren Turner and his wife Heather. With a strong, faith-filled marriage, the Turners are ready to follow their calling: serving God, family, and country. Fresh from seminary and basic training, Chaplain Turner and his family arrive at Fort Stewart. Yet before the Turners can even unpack their new house, …

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Being Content When The Military Moves You Far From Home

Being Content When The Military Moves You Far From Home

Being Content When The Military Moves You Far From Home I moved out of my parents home and away from my hometown when I was 18.5 years old. I couldn’t wait to explore and live somewhere else. I couldn’t wait for that independence. I was so ready and left when I had the chance to go. When I did that, I didn’t know how far that independence would take me. When I was 26, we moved from Northern California to Kentucky, even further away. When my husband joined the Army, we moved to Germany, an ocean away. We came back …

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9 Reasons You Know You Are Married To A Soldier

9 Reasons You Know You Are Married To A Soldier

9 Reasons You Know You Are Married To A Soldier I feel like the Army surrounds me, every day. My husband is now in the Nashville Guard, but we live near Fort Campbell, which is a very Army town. There is no getting away from Army life around here. Whether it is hearing that a friend’s husband is deploying soon, seeing at all the bumper stickers on the cars, or even hearing training on post, even from 15 minutes away. I have been an Army wife for almost 13 years now, longer if you count his IRR time. Being a …

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When You Hate Deployments

When You Hate Deployments

When You Hate Deployments Our first deployment came about nine months after my life as a military spouse first began. This was after spending about 4.5 months apart waiting to join my husband in Germany. He left the following August, and that deployment didn’t end until November of the following year. That was such a long time to be away from my husband. Even now, all these years later, I can’t even believe we got through that. I had a baby during that deployment, a toddler, and lived in Germany, far away from family and what we were used to. …

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The End of a Deployment is A Good Time to Try Something New

The End of a Deployment is A Good Time to Try Something New So you are at the 8-month mark, finally! You have weeks to go, you are counting down the days in your head (not online of course, OPSEC and all,) and you are not quite sure you are really at this place. How did you make it this far? One day at a time? Somehow you are at the end of the deployment. And now things are dragging again. Time is moving at a snail’s pace. So close, yet so far. What can you do about that? Why not …

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That Darn Emergency Contact

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That Darn Emergency Contact One part of military life is possibly moving every few years. In a 20-year long military career, you could move anywhere from two or three to eight or nine depending on career plans. For some, moving every two or three years is normal. Some military families move even more often. While sometimes you do get to stay at the same duty station for a longer period of time, that isn’t the norm. When you move, you really have to start over. You have to make a new house a home, you have to find new doctors, dentists, even …

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When You Feel Like Your Military Children Are Missing Out

When You Feel Like Your Military Children Are Missing Out

When You Feel Like Your Military Children Are Missing Out I remember feeling so torn during our first deployment. I didn’t want to do this Military life thing anymore. I didn’t want my kids to be without their dad. I didn’t want there to be so many pages of my scrapbook where dad was missing. I started wondering if military life was worth the cost. Was it worth it for my kids to miss so much? I started wondering if despite my husband’s desire to serve, that our family needed to come first and that he shouldn’t do this anymore. That …

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5 Reasons For Military Spouses To Go Back To School

5 Reasons For Military Spouses To Go Back To School

5 Reasons For Military Spouses To Go Back To School Last year, I thought long and hard about what I wanted to do in the future. I graduated with my BA in Sociology in 2001 and I never really knew what I was going to do with it. I never did get a “Sociology” job and ended up working in other ways after college. Then I started having children and started to stay home. I have been a work at home mom for years now and while I love what I do (writing) and I love the flexibility of working …

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5 Myths About Military Spouse Friendships

5 Myths About Military Spouse Friendships

5 Myths About Military Spouse Friendships Over the years I have heard from military spouses that they are either afraid to make friends with other military spouses, because of how they assume they will be treated, or have even tried to do so and not been successful at it. That they can’t seem to find their people, or that they keep running into others that don’t seem very friendly or welcoming at all. This sucks. I strongly believe that you need friends to get through this military lifestyle. But I also know that it isn’t always easy to do. I …

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Enough With the Dependa Crap

Enough With the Dependa Crap

Enough With the Dependa Crap I’m over it. I am so tired of the dependa crap. I am tired of people throwing that word around, using it to demean others, using it as a weapon, and hiding behind it as if it makes them better than anyone else. Enough with the talking down to other military spouses because they live their lives differently than you do. Enough with the Facebook group bashing because you think you are right and don’t have room for other opinions. Enough with assuming military spouses are only there to take from an unsuspecting soldier. We as …

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