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Military Discounts at the Opry Mills Mall in Nashville

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If you are stationed at Fort Campbell, you are less than an hour from the Opry Mills Mall. This mall is an outlet mall and it’s huge. It takes a while to walk around the entire thing, and you can do just that as the mall is basically a circle. The mall has over 200 stores, a movie theater, Dave and Busters, a huge food court with a variety of choices, and quite a few sit-down restaurants as well.

You can also park at the Opry Mills Mall and walk over to the Gaylord Opryland Hotel which is quite the experience, even if you don’t stay there. Which, if you want to visit the hotel I would recommend doing because parking at the hotel is quite pricey. The Grand Ole Opry House is also right next to the mall.

The Opry Mills Mall opened in 2000 at the former site of the Opryland Theme park. In May of 2010 however, the mall had to close due to the massive floods that were going on in Tennessee. The mall finally reopened in 2012 after two years of repairs although some of the big stores like Bass Pro Shops opened up sooner.

Our family goes to this mall pretty often. It’s worth the 45-minute drive from Fort Campbell and has something for everyone.

Many of the stores also have military discounts, at least at the Opry Mills Mall. Keep in mind that sometimes military discounts are location-dependent or dependent on what that particular manager wants to offer customers.

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Military Discounts at the Opry Mills Mall in Nashville

And most of the stores that do offer military discounts, have this star in their window! I have walked around the Opry Mills mall so many times and wanted to share some of the stores that do offer military discounts.

Military Discounts at the Opry Mills Mall in Nashville

Gamestop is a must-stop for our family of gamers! Everyone loves it and wants to check out the new games and toys they have available. Gamestop offers a 10% military discount.

Military Discounts at the Opry Mills Mall in Nashville

At Under Armour, you can find clothing and shoes. They have a military discount of 20%, although sometimes they will offer up to 40%.

Military Discounts at the Opry Mills Mall in Nashville

Another must for our family or well me to shop for our family, is Hurley! They have clothing for men, women, and kids, with a surfer/swimmer theme in mind. Check with your local store for current discount!

Military Discounts at the Opry Mills Mall in Nashville

Need shoes for your kids? Kids Foot Locker gives out a 10% military discount. You can also find this at the regular Foot Locker too.

Military Discounts at the Opry Mills Mall in Nashville

Bass Pro Shops is a fun place to go, especially around Christmas time. They offer a 10% military discount.

Military Discounts at the Opry Mills Mall in Nashville

At Nautica, you can find closes inspired by the sea! Save a few dollars with their military discount.

Military Discounts at the Opry Mills Mall in Nashville

Sun & Ski Sports is perfect if you are looking for a new jacket, skiing gear, or a new backpack. They have a 10% military discount.

Military Discounts at the Opry Mills Mall in Nashville

Looking for casual clothing? Head to Buckle and save 10% with their military discount.

Military Discounts at the Opry Mills Mall in Nashville

Hollister is another clothing store. Save 10-15% depending on your location.

Military Discounts at the Opry Mills Mall in Nashville

Vera Bradley is my must-stop shop at the Opry Mills Mall. They have a 15% military discount and you can use it on top of their amazing discounts. Talk about saving money!

Military Discounts at the Opry Mills Mall in Nashville

It’s my favorite shoe store! I love that they have a military discount too. Use it with some of their promotions to get some new shoes.

Yankee Candle is another favorite. Save 10% with their military discount.

There are of course many more military discounts at the Opry Mills Mall. If you are stationed at Fort Campbell, make sure to plan a trip! It can be a fun experience for the whole family.

Shoney’s Veterans Day 2023 Free Breakfast Deal

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Last year, I took my Dad to a restaurant on Veterans Day to get him his very first free meal as a Veteran. He served in the Air Force in the late 1960s/early 1970s but had never been in for a free meal. I loved that he finally got to experience this! We met a few other veterans there that day too.

There are many different places that offer a free meal to veterans on Veterans Day, or the weekend surrounding it. It’s a great way for businesses to give back to the military community.

Shoney’s is one of those places and is offering a free breakfast on Veterans Day!

Check out the details below!

Shoney's Veterans Day 2023 Free Breakfast Deal

Veterans and active duty military eat free on Saturday, November 11th, 2023 at your local Shoney’s restaurant! This offer is good from opening until 11:00 am. Proof of military service is required, and it is for dine-in orders only. Only at participating locations.

Enjoy your meal!

Shoney's Veterans Day 2023 Free Breakfast Deal

9 Memes For Your Life As a Modern Military Spouse

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9 Memes For Your Life As a Modern Military Spouse

This military spouse life we live can be quite a unique experience. From PCSing every few years, to solo parenting, to having some exciting adventures we never thought possible. Military life has a way of making us laugh and making us cry, all in the same day.

Here are 9 military spouse memes that I am sure you can relate to. Feel free to share with your friends!

PIVOT! Yes, we absolutely have to pivot during military life. Even if we don’t want to. We make the best of every situation. And go with plan B, C…all the way to Z if we need to.

It is totally okay to feel lost when you move to a new duty station. Take some time. You will find your place.

That’s the key…embrace the good, and find what works for you to get through the bad.

It’s so hard to plan when you really have no idea what the next year will be like.

This too shall pass…this too shall pass…this too shall pass!

This is the truth about all the amazing people we meet during military life. We can’t always live in the same area, but we also do have our memories.

Oh waiting on paperwork is the worst! Why can’t they make it easier?

At the end of the day, we do have one another. We can lift each other up, help each other through, and walk through this military life together.

I feel like I am still learning. There is so much to figure out.

To The Military Spouse That Is Having A Bad Day

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To The Military Spouse That Is Having A Bad Day

Some days are better than others. This is true for everyone. Whether you are married to a member of the military, married to a teacher, married to a CEO, or married to a truck driver. This is true even if you are not married at all. Having bad days is a part of life.

Over the years I have had bad days because of deployments and bad days when my husband has been home. I have had bad days right after a PCS and bad days when we have been living in the same place for three years. I have had bad days when I didn’t have anyone to talk with and bad days when I have been surrounded by good friends.

So to you military spouse who is having a bad day, know that not all days will feel this way.

If your husband just deployed, know that your bad days will get better and that you will find the tools will get you through the rest of the deployment.

What do you do when you are having a bad day? How do you get to a better place?

If you are missing your best friend who just moved away, know that you can still be best friends and that you will make new friends in the future.

If your kids are not listening and you are about to lose your mind if you have to spend one more day solo parenting, know that kids grow out of their annoying stages and you move on. You find new tools to keep in your parenting toolkit. And that you won’t always have to be a solo parent.

If you are having a bad day because you just lost your job, a job you loved, know that there will be more jobs to love in the future. You won’t always be out of work. Keep on trying, and you will find a job you love again in the future.

If your paycheck isn’t reaching as far lately, if the extras that come from life are getting to you, know that you can figure out a way out of this situation. Go back to your budget and see what you can do to make your bank account happy again.

If you want to find a new career path and you feel like you have nothing to give, you do. Take a step back and think of all the skills you have, redo your resume, and start applying for jobs.

What do you do when you are having a bad day? How do you get to a better place?

If you feel lost and scared because your husband just got orders overseas, to a place that scares you, know that you will get through that deployment just like you got through the rest of them.

If you are upset because you were hoping for orders to the duty station 20 minutes from your childhood home, and you get them for a place across the country, know that your experiences there can still be good ones. Plus, moving there will give your family a chance to visit you in a completely different place.

Whatever it is you are dealing with, whatever is making you have a bad day, know that this too shall pass.

Life is all about change. Jobs change, friends change, and children change. Look and see what you can do to make life better and let the rest of it go.

As military spouses, we don’t have control over deployments, or where we will live, or what life will bring us. We do have control over how we handle deployments, what we do in our communities, and how we handle the bad as well as the good days.

So to the military spouse who is having a bad day, I get it. I have plenty of bad days myself. This week has been full of them. But I have to remind myself that tomorrow is another day, that things will change, and that overall things are pretty amazing.

Taking a step back to look at what you have instead of what you don’t can help with your mood. Remember years past when things didn’t seem so great but then ended up working out in the end. And be a person others can go to when they are not having the best of days themselves.

What do you do when you are having a bad day? How do you get to a better place?

How to be a Military Spouse With Boundaries

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How to be a Military Spouse With Boundaries

I recently saw a post on Facebook that talked about how you can still be a good person and say no, and that you are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm and I loved it.

So many times, we as military spouses, get to a place of extreme burnout. We are simply taking on too much. And while I think there is nothing we can do about being the only adult in the home for months at a time or putting up with different military life challenges, we can control our boundaries and what we allow in.

I try so hard to avoid burnout. I don’t like the feeling that I have taken on too much. When I do that, I find myself way too stressed out and that isn’t good for anyone.

Boundaries are important for everyone. They can keep you grounded, and allow you to live your best life. They can help you stay calm in an otherwise stressful time in your life.

Here is how to have them as a military spouse:

Say no

It’s okay to say no sometimes. I know, that can be so hard to do, but saying no sometimes is necessary. Saying no can be necessary to our physical, emotional, and mental health. Saying yes to everything just because we are asked is a quick way to become overwhelmed with everything.

Remember, you aren’t meant to solve everyone’s problems

Helping other people feels so good, and there are so many chances to do so on a daily basis. But remember, you are not solely responsible for everyone’s problems. You can lend a listening ear, or even direct them to a place that can help. You don’t physically have to do everything for them. That is just too much for one person to take on.

You can be picky about your friends

You are going to run into all types of people in your daily lives. Some of them you will get along with and some of them you won’t. That’s life. You might have a coworker that gets on your nerves or a long-time friend who doesn’t respect you.

A part of having boundaries is recognizing that you don’t have to be close friends with everyone. You can be respectful of other people, without having to let them into your personal life. You can be choosey when it comes to who you spend your free time with.

Remember, saying no to one thing means saying yes to another

One of the most important things about boundaries is that by saying no to one thing, you can be saying yes to another. There are only so many hours in the day, and you can’t say yes to everything. Think long and hard about every yes you give. You don’t want to say yes to something you really hate when that means you will have to say no to something you really love.

That being said, you will have to say yes to things you don’t want to do all the time, especially if you have kids. But even with that, choose your best yes, and what works for your family. Saying no sometimes will free up time to say yes to things that are most important to you.

Following these tips can be difficult sometimes. Saying no isn’t always easy, even if you really want to. But having some type of boundaries in your life can make things a little easier, especially when you add in challenges that come with military life.

The Type of Military Spouse It’s Okay To Be

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The Type of Military Spouse It's Okay To Be

It’s okay…

You see it’s okay to be you. You are your own person. You have your own likes, dislikes and belief systems. You are who you are.

It’s okay to cry during a deployment, and it’s okay if you don’t. We don’t all handle deployment in the same way.

It’s okay to go home for a deployment because you feel that is what you need to get through. It’s okay to stay at your duty station because you can’t imagine going anywhere else while they are gone.

It’s okay if your house is kinda messy all the time and it’s okay if you are a neat freak that can’t sleep if anything is out of order.

It’s okay if you binge watch something every Friday night, and it’s okay if you never watch tv.

It’s okay if you have two children, or three children, or five children. It’s okay if you never want children and want to stay childfree.

It’s okay if you are a Christian, it’s okay if you are a Muslim, it’s okay if you are Jewish, it is okay if you are Hindu, and it’s okay if you don’t practice any type of religion at all. We all come from our own backgrounds and we all worship who we are going to worship.

It’s okay if you are a Republican, it’s okay if you are a Democrat, and it’s okay if you are not sure what you are and don’t want to pick a party.

It’s okay if you want to buy a house at your duty station and it is okay if you don’t want to own until after military retirement.

It’s okay if you want three dogs and it’s okay if pets are the last thing you want to deal with.

The Type of Military Spouse It's Okay To Be

It’s okay to be frustrated that you can’t find a job and it is okay to be happy that you are finally a SAHM.

It’s okay to be from a tiny town in Georgia, and it is okay to be from New York City and it’s okay that the two of you are best friends who met at a base in Hawaii.

It’s okay to love the show Army Wives, and it’s okay to hate that show with every fiber of your being.

It’s okay to be excited about going to spend four years in Germany, and it’s okay to be scared to death about leaving everything you have ever known.

It’s okay to go all out, hire a photographer for homecoming and spend $100 on an outfit. It’s okay to bring along a friend with an iPhone and to wear your favorite outfit from last year.

It’s okay to go to every ball and dance the night away. It’s okay to skip them and never attend, even if your spouse has to go.

It’s okay to love the FRG and volunteer to help. It’s okay to say no thank you and not attend spouse events as a general rule.

The Type of Military Spouse It's Okay To Be

You see, these are the types of military spouses you are okay to be. It’s okay to be you.

What is not okay is to bash others you don’t understand. It’s not okay to make fun of a spouse that is having a harder time than you are. It’s not okay to be unfaithful to your spouse, especially when they are deployed. It’s not okay to use the D word (you know the one) when referring to those you don’t understand.

You see, the military community is a diverse place. Military spouses are not all the same, and we can learn from one another. We come from all over the US and even other countries. We have different backgrounds and don’t all think the same.

But the one thing we have in common is that we are married to someone serving in our military. We have to say goodbye to them as they leave for deployment. We have to pack up everything and move every few years. We have to be strong, even when it feels like we can’t be anymore.

You see, the type of military spouse that it’s okay to be is one who is loyal, one who is able, one who is willing, and one who will do what they need to do to get through each day. 

When An Introverted Military Spouse Needs To Make Friends

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When An Introverted Military Spouse Needs To Make Friends

“Why are you so quiet?”

I was asked this SO many times as a kid and you know what, I hated it so much. I was so shy, I had social anxiety I am sure, and I was an introvert.

And because of that, I struggled a bit. Sure, with my best friends and family I could be super loud. I remember my parents telling me they were going to tape record (yep, 80s kid here) me and give it to my teachers.

My shyness was really a struggle. I can remember people asking me questions and being TERRIFIED to answer them. I just couldn’t talk to them.

As a young teenager, I was able to use humor to help a little, although that didn’t always go well. I found myself repeating lines from Saturday Night Life or some other funny show in order to fit in with people.

As an older teenager, things got a little easier for me. Then I left for college.

College was so much easier. I was able to talk to more and more people. I didn’t get scared when people asked me a question. I could go up to people and talk to them without much issue.

Fast forward to today. I am in my 40s. Most days I feel like an introvert, some days I can be more extroverted. I am still quiet. I don’t think anyone would call me loud, except my kids. Sometimes I feel pretty socially awkward, other days I don’t. It just depends on my mood.

If I walk into a room full of people I don’t know, I can handle myself. But doing so isn’t always comfortable.

I have gotten up in front of people to speak, and I would do that again, but I can also get pretty nervous when I do.

If I see someone I don’t know too well out and about, I struggle with if I should say hi or not. That is awkward for me.

I know that I am not the only military spouse who is an introvert. I know others struggle with making friends and going into situations where they are the new girl. I know how hard that can be.

But…as military spouses, we have to do it, at least on some level. We have to get out and attend something, whether it be an FRG meeting, a playgroup, or even a mandatory fun event. If we never go to anything, meeting other spouses will be that much harder to do.

Here are a few tips for introverted military spouses who need to make some friends:

  • Use the internet

Find a local group about something you love to do. Join it. Get to know some of the people in the group online. Attend one of their events. When you go, you should have already interacted with a few people already, and that can make it easier to talk with others and make some real friends.

  • Go places you can meet people

There are probably groups and clubs, and events going on at your duty station or in your city. See what is going on and find some places you would be interested in. MOPS is perfect if you have little kids.

Then make sure you go. Be friendly when you are there, and see what happens. You never know. And remember, there are going to be other introverted military spouses there too.

  • Remember, you are not alone

Remember, you are not the only one who is shy, trying to make friends. Other people are too. You are not the only one that feels they have social anxiety, others do too. You are not the lone introverted spouse in a sea of extroverts. Whenever you go somewhere new, think about that, and hopefully, that will make the whole experience easier for you.

I like to say that making friends as a military spouse is a must. This is so true, but I also know getting out there to actually make those friends can be difficult. So, whether you are introverted, feel socially awkward, or just think you are pretty shy, you got this.

Military life can change us and push us to do things we didn’t think we could do. I think this is one of those areas. Military life will force you out of your comfort zone, but the rewards for doing so make it worth it.

What have you done to make friends as an introverted military spouse?

What Military Spouses Signed Up For

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We have all heard people say it, in the middle of our deployments, “you knew what you signed up for when you became a military spouse.“

Only…we didn’t. Whether we married someone already serving or made that decision together, there is no way any of us could have known how difficult military life could be. No road map tells you exactly how you will feel when your spouse of 10 years has to leave for a year. We simply get through these difficult situations the best way that we can.

But as military spouses, there are some things we signed up for…

That we will support our spouses

We might not know how supporting our spouse will look like over the years, but we committed to doing so. That is what spouses should do for one another, military or not. Being there for one another, no matter the circumstance.

Whether that is standing by during a deployment or helping them through training. Whether it is being faithful during time apart or working hard to make sure they get any help they might need after a deployment.

That we will love on our children

No matter what happens, we military spouses are committed to helping our children through whatever it is they are going to have to go through. We might not always know the best way to help them, but we will figure out how to do so. We will fill the role of both mom and dad, doing what we can when our service member is away.

That we will be a part of the community

The military community is a good one. There are a lot of supportive people that we can connect with. Whether it is through your FRG or MOPS community, befriending others in your neighborhood, or finding a good friend in an online group. Although sometimes finding your tribe isn’t easy, know that there are plenty of good military spouses out there to befriend and get to know.

That we love our country

At the end of the day, we love our country. We see the reason why our spouse has to serve, why someone has to serve, why we need to have a strong military. Whether we have an R or a D behind our name or are not even sure where we belong, we love our country and our military and want the best for it.

Not only for the sake of our own spouses and families but for all the other men and women who are serving. We know that this life means sacrifice, even when that is hard. We know that we will have to give things up, even if we don’t want to. We know it is all for a bigger purpose.

That we can be patient

We might be heartbroken when our spouse’s deployment gets extended, we might vent about where we have to PCS to next, we might hate the fact that we can’t ever rely on our spouse to help us put the kids to bed but overall, military spouses are patient.

We have to be. We are always waiting and waiting, even when it seems like we should already have what we are waiting for. We wait for paperwork to get done, we wait for a deployment to end, and we wait for orders to get cut. We know waiting is part of the deal, and we do the best we can, even if the waiting drives us nuts.

While we don’t know what we signed up for with aspects of military life, we know what we can bring to the table. We know that we can support our spouses, that we can love on our children, that we can be a part of the military community, that we love our country, and that we can be patient.

None of these things are easy, but they are in our heart as we strive to make our way through this crazy military life.

What is the most difficult part of military life for you?